"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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FR: School Dance

Yookiwooki

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Just got back from a school dance today, and I think I'm making some progress with the whole DJ thing.

I was pretty nervous getting in there, but it was pretty full and I had some friends there to chill with.

The first hour or so was complete ****, im not gonna lie. I felt pretty awkward on the dance floor. Its amazing how the dance works; it seems that most girls are dancing with guys, and the guys are just standing around in clumps watching the others get action. AFCism is really bad in high school, and I was really part of it for the first half of the dance.

Its not that I wasnt approaching; I was... but mabye from bad luck, or awkwardness, or some other reason, I was not getting ANY action.

I would dance with a girl for like 30 sec and she would 'have to leave.' At one point a girl I was dancing with looked over at her friend, who shook her head, and they both walked away. I was ****in pissed! I must have a bad reputation or something because im really not that bad looking.

I must have made four or five rejected approaches, until I started dancing with a HB 8.5 (pretty high on my scale). She was a new girl, and I guess she has no idea about reputation and such. We had a really good time; danced for like five minutes until I left for a drink.

After that, I just felt amazing. I just went out and danced with like 5 or 6 girls in the last hour and a half. I've never felt more confident.

I dont know what it is. For some reason, I can end up being incredibly confident, but I start off really awkward and timid.

What should I do to get myself in that mood of pure confidence at the beginning of the dance?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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john paul

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I know what your talking about. Its really hard to get there and be able to jump into the action right away. My secret? drink a little bit right before you go in. Just so your buzzing and relaxed, not stumbling around and slightly hammered. You go in feeling good and reeking of confidence just because your chilled out from the alcohol.

and by the time it wears off you have got plenty of confidence to last you the rest of the night completely sober.
 

Yookiwooki

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I donno about drinking. So far I havent tried it, and I think i'll stay away from it until college. I have absolutely no idea how I'll react to it, and I've got a lot of responsibilities in HS that might get ****ed up if I get caught.

I guess I have to just get through that anxious period, mabye if I hang out with some friends before hand or something it'll be easier. Mabye I just need to muscle through it.
 
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