I am a beginner who has lurked on ASF for a long time. I haven’t even been able to call myself a keyboard jockey. I was too scared to actually approach. I’ve done a couple of GSF’s, but I don’t really think it helped me. Once in a while I managed to get enough balls to approach, but it was never direct. I would just try to make a situational opener, and I wouldn’t do it with any authority. My approach was really horrible. I live in New York, but I took a trip to Boston so that I can sarge with Delta Male (Dan), whose helping me prepare for a RSI bootcamp the next weekend. This way, I’ll be able to get as much out of the bootcamp as possible. It would be such a waste to have people as good as Woodhaven and Dimitri just help me get over my approach anxiety. I figured I should at least be able to approach and number close.
When I arrived in Boston on Friday night, I was scared to approach, but I knew I just had to do it. When we first meet up, I watch Dan and his wing Mirage go up and open a set on the subway. The girls weren’t creeped out, they actually enjoyed the conversation. We get on the subway, realize we are taking it the wrong way, get off, have to transfer to find the right way. We took it completely the wrong way again. Boston subways are very confusing, or it’s just us. We decide to walk to the club instead. We see a set in the street, and to help me get over my approach anxiety, they tell me to go in with a very special opener. So we tell them we needed a second to ask them a simple question. The girl sees me chewing a piece of gum, and asks for a piece. I say after she answers she can have a piece. So I go ahead and ask the question “Hey, you wanna ****”. Surprisingly they declined, but I gave the girl a piece of gum anyway. They were surprised, but they weren’t upset. They even wished us good luck.
So we go to the first club, but can’t get inside because we have to be over 21. Dan opens a set in the street whose wearing cowboy hats. He’s talking, I try to get in the conversation, but don’t know what to say. We couldn’t get inside the club because it was over 21, so we had to go to a different place. I watched Dan open a set in the street, he gets me in, but I don’t know what to say, I froze up. Mirage came in the set and kept it alive. I tried to make smart ****y funny statements, but it didn’t work out too well, the girls just kind of ignored me. They were just waiting for a guy, and went inside his Rolls Royce. It was okay, we had to go to another club anyway.
We see another set in the street, as Dan was guiding me on how to approach them. Dan told me to walk up beside them, a little in front, look over and say “Hey, What’s up?” As I’m about to, I see Mirage run in front of them, and throw both his hands up and stops them. He than uses an opinion opener, and we talk for a bit, and head out to another club. It was a completely different way to stop them than Dan told me, but it works just as good. So there it was, two different ways to stop girls who are walking and they both work. We stop them, and chat them up for a bit and they leave.
Next we are taking the subway, and there’s a cute girl they want me to approach her. I’m set, I’m pumped, I run up behind her. I yell “HEY!”. She almost had a heart attack and practically fell down the stairs. Than I say “I think you’re really cute, I want to meet you”. She made a big sigh and looked really relieved. I wasn’t going to kill her. I think she said “Thanks, but I have a fiancé, and showed me the ring.” It was really cool though, even though I did it wrong, I’m still okay. Than they get me to approach another girl waiting for the subway. I go up to her and say “Hey, let me tell you something. I think you’re really cute, I want to meet you” (It’s my favorite opener, I learned it from Dan). She said she wasn’t from Boston, I also said I wasn’t. We talked, either I was too shy to ask for a number close, or she didn’t want to give it to me, I can’t really remember.
The club isn’t really my environment, because I can’t dance, but that doesn’t really matter. The approach should start outside of the dance floor anyway. As soon as we enter, Dan approaches like the machine that he is. The club was so loud, and my projection isn’t great so it was hard. We made a whole bunch of approaches, I can’t even really remember them. This Asian set opened up really well. It was two Korean’s and 2 Chinese. One of the girls was really good looking, and she was into us the most. Two were above average, and one was average. The average one was the one who wasn’t interested. We talked for a while and we left. I think we opened them up a total of three times and finally got a number close outside of the club. I think we all got numbers, I got the girls number by asking if she has a phone, she said yes, and handed it to me, I called my number with it. She was like, now we both have each others numbers. Another noteworthy one was this Bulgarian girl. She didn’t seem to be into me, but I kept talking, and Dan kept throwing me in, every time I wanted to leave. She seemed to warm up, but we didn’t dance. Outside of the club, she gives me a huge smile, and I approach. Her friend is looking at me like who is this creep. I say “what’s up?” I see Dan and Mirage chasing a target, and when they left so did my confidence. I’m not sure what to say, and don’t want to lose them. Complicated for me, and I end up leaving. I should have tried to close.
Mirage tries a new approach. He goes up to a girl and says “I really hate your shoes” She says “excuse me”, he repeats himself, and she replies with “I really hate your face”. Hopefully the approach will work better next time.
The next day, it’s Me and Mirage. Dan has a job interview, so we sarge the mall for daytime. I’m trying to come across as not creepy. At 1 o’clock we meet for a GSF. There are a lot of really cool people in the Boston lair. We have 7 people, and sarging in one group of 7 would be a little ridiculous. We split off into two groups of two and one group of three. It’s Me, Dan, and another guy, we’ll call him Michael (it’s not his real name, but it’s to keep him anonymous). So it’s two newbies and Dan. Michael was into indirect, he would go up and ask the girls what they thought about pink shorts on a guy. He had a catalogue with him and asked what they thought about those shorts. We mainly just got their opinions. I opened a set with him, and opened indirect. It was a combination of me still being nervous with approach anxiety, and him being an indirect guy. I tried to come up with a situational opener, I asked them what they thought about a guy buying clothes for his girlfriend. They thought it was great, and if I needed help to just ask. They were asking me what style she liked, I really didn’t know what to say, I was like, uhh I’m not sure. Than Michael comes in with his shorts, and I had to switch it up with the fastest thing I could think of. I was like, well I just wanted your opinion on that because Michael’s girlfriend wants to buy clothes for him, and wanted to see what you thought if it was the other way around. We talked for a little more, but the set didn’t go great. At least they weren’t scared when we approached.
Me and Dan see a two set, so of course we approach them. One of the girls is Thai, and the other is Korean. I was initially talking to the Thai while Dan talks to the Korean. They weren’t very open to talking with us, but I answer the Korean girls question in Korean (I know a little bit). Than we switch I talk to the Korean and he talks to the Thai. The set went beautifully. We both # close. The only thing is the Korean girl is going back to Korea in a couple of days. I was happy, I finally did it. I got a # close. We end up having a LAIR meeting. We answer each others questions and help each other out. We give our opinions on everyones strengths and weaknesses. To make a good day great, I see a Vietnamese girl on the train, and open her direct. I say “Hey, whats up? Let me tell you something. I think you’re really cute, I wanna meet you” She was flattered. We talk for a couple minutes and than the person behind her leaves. So I sit behind her, just because I wanted to sit, and she turns a little to the side so she can face me. It’s my stop so I suggest we talk again sometime. She tells me her really long email, but neither of us have a pen and paper. I give her my phone and she writes her number in it. Another great one.
When I arrived in Boston on Friday night, I was scared to approach, but I knew I just had to do it. When we first meet up, I watch Dan and his wing Mirage go up and open a set on the subway. The girls weren’t creeped out, they actually enjoyed the conversation. We get on the subway, realize we are taking it the wrong way, get off, have to transfer to find the right way. We took it completely the wrong way again. Boston subways are very confusing, or it’s just us. We decide to walk to the club instead. We see a set in the street, and to help me get over my approach anxiety, they tell me to go in with a very special opener. So we tell them we needed a second to ask them a simple question. The girl sees me chewing a piece of gum, and asks for a piece. I say after she answers she can have a piece. So I go ahead and ask the question “Hey, you wanna ****”. Surprisingly they declined, but I gave the girl a piece of gum anyway. They were surprised, but they weren’t upset. They even wished us good luck.
So we go to the first club, but can’t get inside because we have to be over 21. Dan opens a set in the street whose wearing cowboy hats. He’s talking, I try to get in the conversation, but don’t know what to say. We couldn’t get inside the club because it was over 21, so we had to go to a different place. I watched Dan open a set in the street, he gets me in, but I don’t know what to say, I froze up. Mirage came in the set and kept it alive. I tried to make smart ****y funny statements, but it didn’t work out too well, the girls just kind of ignored me. They were just waiting for a guy, and went inside his Rolls Royce. It was okay, we had to go to another club anyway.
We see another set in the street, as Dan was guiding me on how to approach them. Dan told me to walk up beside them, a little in front, look over and say “Hey, What’s up?” As I’m about to, I see Mirage run in front of them, and throw both his hands up and stops them. He than uses an opinion opener, and we talk for a bit, and head out to another club. It was a completely different way to stop them than Dan told me, but it works just as good. So there it was, two different ways to stop girls who are walking and they both work. We stop them, and chat them up for a bit and they leave.
Next we are taking the subway, and there’s a cute girl they want me to approach her. I’m set, I’m pumped, I run up behind her. I yell “HEY!”. She almost had a heart attack and practically fell down the stairs. Than I say “I think you’re really cute, I want to meet you”. She made a big sigh and looked really relieved. I wasn’t going to kill her. I think she said “Thanks, but I have a fiancé, and showed me the ring.” It was really cool though, even though I did it wrong, I’m still okay. Than they get me to approach another girl waiting for the subway. I go up to her and say “Hey, let me tell you something. I think you’re really cute, I want to meet you” (It’s my favorite opener, I learned it from Dan). She said she wasn’t from Boston, I also said I wasn’t. We talked, either I was too shy to ask for a number close, or she didn’t want to give it to me, I can’t really remember.
The club isn’t really my environment, because I can’t dance, but that doesn’t really matter. The approach should start outside of the dance floor anyway. As soon as we enter, Dan approaches like the machine that he is. The club was so loud, and my projection isn’t great so it was hard. We made a whole bunch of approaches, I can’t even really remember them. This Asian set opened up really well. It was two Korean’s and 2 Chinese. One of the girls was really good looking, and she was into us the most. Two were above average, and one was average. The average one was the one who wasn’t interested. We talked for a while and we left. I think we opened them up a total of three times and finally got a number close outside of the club. I think we all got numbers, I got the girls number by asking if she has a phone, she said yes, and handed it to me, I called my number with it. She was like, now we both have each others numbers. Another noteworthy one was this Bulgarian girl. She didn’t seem to be into me, but I kept talking, and Dan kept throwing me in, every time I wanted to leave. She seemed to warm up, but we didn’t dance. Outside of the club, she gives me a huge smile, and I approach. Her friend is looking at me like who is this creep. I say “what’s up?” I see Dan and Mirage chasing a target, and when they left so did my confidence. I’m not sure what to say, and don’t want to lose them. Complicated for me, and I end up leaving. I should have tried to close.
Mirage tries a new approach. He goes up to a girl and says “I really hate your shoes” She says “excuse me”, he repeats himself, and she replies with “I really hate your face”. Hopefully the approach will work better next time.
The next day, it’s Me and Mirage. Dan has a job interview, so we sarge the mall for daytime. I’m trying to come across as not creepy. At 1 o’clock we meet for a GSF. There are a lot of really cool people in the Boston lair. We have 7 people, and sarging in one group of 7 would be a little ridiculous. We split off into two groups of two and one group of three. It’s Me, Dan, and another guy, we’ll call him Michael (it’s not his real name, but it’s to keep him anonymous). So it’s two newbies and Dan. Michael was into indirect, he would go up and ask the girls what they thought about pink shorts on a guy. He had a catalogue with him and asked what they thought about those shorts. We mainly just got their opinions. I opened a set with him, and opened indirect. It was a combination of me still being nervous with approach anxiety, and him being an indirect guy. I tried to come up with a situational opener, I asked them what they thought about a guy buying clothes for his girlfriend. They thought it was great, and if I needed help to just ask. They were asking me what style she liked, I really didn’t know what to say, I was like, uhh I’m not sure. Than Michael comes in with his shorts, and I had to switch it up with the fastest thing I could think of. I was like, well I just wanted your opinion on that because Michael’s girlfriend wants to buy clothes for him, and wanted to see what you thought if it was the other way around. We talked for a little more, but the set didn’t go great. At least they weren’t scared when we approached.
Me and Dan see a two set, so of course we approach them. One of the girls is Thai, and the other is Korean. I was initially talking to the Thai while Dan talks to the Korean. They weren’t very open to talking with us, but I answer the Korean girls question in Korean (I know a little bit). Than we switch I talk to the Korean and he talks to the Thai. The set went beautifully. We both # close. The only thing is the Korean girl is going back to Korea in a couple of days. I was happy, I finally did it. I got a # close. We end up having a LAIR meeting. We answer each others questions and help each other out. We give our opinions on everyones strengths and weaknesses. To make a good day great, I see a Vietnamese girl on the train, and open her direct. I say “Hey, whats up? Let me tell you something. I think you’re really cute, I wanna meet you” She was flattered. We talk for a couple minutes and than the person behind her leaves. So I sit behind her, just because I wanted to sit, and she turns a little to the side so she can face me. It’s my stop so I suggest we talk again sometime. She tells me her really long email, but neither of us have a pen and paper. I give her my phone and she writes her number in it. Another great one.