"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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FR: Proximity Approach or Just Coincidence?

evesman

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Second night out in a row. Solo of course. Finally, I see pretty girls out. I'm too shy to approach them. What do you make of this:

I see two hot girls (one blonde one brunette) in two separate groups in this club I try out. I lose track of them, even though I try to follow them (at a safe distance). I stand in the middle of the dance floor, which is completely empty. Magically, the blonde hot chick and her three girlfriends walk up and begin dancing right next to me on my right. Then, the brunette hot chick and HER three girlfriends walk up and begin dancing directly on my left. I wonder if I should dance with them. After a song or two, both groups of girls disappear into the crowd, in opposite directions.

I drift off...

I walk back to the dance floor. It's empty again. The same two groups of girls approach again, in exactly the same positions as before. This seems like aw awfully big coincidence.

Do you think this is a coincidence, or is it a proximity approach? Were they trying to get my attention?
 

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MikeYikes122

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In my experience, proximity is a great indicator of interest, but I think you have to have some experience before you can tell when it's just mere coincidence or if it really is females trying to invite you to approach. Truthfully, I would have had to been at the club with you to be able to tell if this group of ladies were using proximity to get try to you to approach.

My advice is to not even think or worry about it and approach regardless. Once you get some experience under your belt, you'll be able to pick up on signs like this much better. :up:

Just a quick tip though. If a girl keeps touching up against you, that's usually a sign that she wants you to approach. Say for example, you're at a club that is crowded but not too crowded, and the same girl keeps touching her shoulder next to yours for fairly long periods at a time. There's about a 85 percent change that she is into you and wants you to approach.
 

evesman

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Yeah, that's true, I guess I should've just manned up and gone for it, instead of mentally masturbating about it afterwards. :eek:

MikeYikes122 said:
In my experience, proximity is a great indicator of interest, but I think you have to have some experience before you can tell when it's just mere coincidence or if it really is females trying to invite you to approach. Truthfully, I would have had to been at the club with you to be able to tell if this group of ladies were using proximity to get try to you to approach.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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