"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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FR: Proximity Approach or Just Coincidence?

evesman

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Second night out in a row. Solo of course. Finally, I see pretty girls out. I'm too shy to approach them. What do you make of this:

I see two hot girls (one blonde one brunette) in two separate groups in this club I try out. I lose track of them, even though I try to follow them (at a safe distance). I stand in the middle of the dance floor, which is completely empty. Magically, the blonde hot chick and her three girlfriends walk up and begin dancing right next to me on my right. Then, the brunette hot chick and HER three girlfriends walk up and begin dancing directly on my left. I wonder if I should dance with them. After a song or two, both groups of girls disappear into the crowd, in opposite directions.

I drift off...

I walk back to the dance floor. It's empty again. The same two groups of girls approach again, in exactly the same positions as before. This seems like aw awfully big coincidence.

Do you think this is a coincidence, or is it a proximity approach? Were they trying to get my attention?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MikeYikes122

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In my experience, proximity is a great indicator of interest, but I think you have to have some experience before you can tell when it's just mere coincidence or if it really is females trying to invite you to approach. Truthfully, I would have had to been at the club with you to be able to tell if this group of ladies were using proximity to get try to you to approach.

My advice is to not even think or worry about it and approach regardless. Once you get some experience under your belt, you'll be able to pick up on signs like this much better. :up:

Just a quick tip though. If a girl keeps touching up against you, that's usually a sign that she wants you to approach. Say for example, you're at a club that is crowded but not too crowded, and the same girl keeps touching her shoulder next to yours for fairly long periods at a time. There's about a 85 percent change that she is into you and wants you to approach.
 

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Yeah, that's true, I guess I should've just manned up and gone for it, instead of mentally masturbating about it afterwards. :eek:

MikeYikes122 said:
In my experience, proximity is a great indicator of interest, but I think you have to have some experience before you can tell when it's just mere coincidence or if it really is females trying to invite you to approach. Truthfully, I would have had to been at the club with you to be able to tell if this group of ladies were using proximity to get try to you to approach.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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