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FR: New Years Pimpin

oakraiderz2

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So with last night being new years and all i was hoping to get some action...at least a kiss at midnight. Some friends and I went to a bar to watch our friends band play. While we were standing in line i saw two girls that were inside checking me out. Right then i knew it was on. I was inside for no more than 2 min before them approached me.(yea *****es, thats how i ****in roll :D). Anyway, i talked to them for a little bit and then went and asked this kid if he knew her name(i forgot cause once again, thats how i roll). He didnt tell me, but he did tell me that himself and this other kid were trying to get her and that the other kid had her. I chuckled to myself and told him that I just walked in and shes already mine. So i went back to her and asked her what her name was again...blah blah blah. She proceeded to tell me to find her later. Later came and convienently it was 1 min to midnight and her friend told me i was hot and asked when her friend and I were gonna make out. Sure enough at midnight after the count down. We made out then went our seperate ways. Some time passed and i thought she was about to leave so i asked what she was doing later. She said she was going to a party and asked if i wanted to roll...thats when i got her number. Whenever she would walk by id either give her a hug and we'd hold hands or shed grab my hand or my ass. Unfortunetly when i called her later her phone was off. I left a message and my number which i would NEVER NORMALLY do, but i felt i had nothing to lose. Im comtemplating whether or not i should call her or text her sometime so i can finish what i started...opinions are welcome.
 

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
So with last night being new years and all i was hoping to get some action...at least a kiss at midnight. Some friends and I went to a bar to watch our friends band play. While we were standing in line i saw two girls that were inside checking me out. Right then i knew it was on. I was inside for no more than 2 min before them approached me.(yea *****es, thats how i ****in roll :D). Anyway, i talked to them for a little bit and then went and asked this kid if he knew her name(i forgot cause once again, thats how i roll). He didnt tell me, but he did tell me that himself and this other kid were trying to get her and that the other kid had her. I chuckled to myself and told him that I just walked in and shes already mine. So i went back to her and asked her what her name was again...blah blah blah. She proceeded to tell me to find her later. Later came and convienently it was 1 min to midnight and her friend told me i was hot and asked when her friend and I were gonna make out. Sure enough at midnight after the count down. We made out then went our seperate ways. Some time passed and i thought she was about to leave so i asked what she was doing later. She said she was going to a party and asked if i wanted to roll...thats when i got her number. Whenever she would walk by id either give her a hug and we'd hold hands or shed grab my hand or my ass. Unfortunetly when i called her later her phone was off. I left a message and my number which i would NEVER NORMALLY do, but i felt i had nothing to lose. Im comtemplating whether or not i should call her or text her sometime so i can finish what i started...opinions are welcome.
Shouldn't have left a message...

But no point in thinking about it now. Call her back for sure, but wait at least till Tuesday or Wednesday.
 

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What you should have done was NOT LET THE CHICK LEAVE YOUR SIDE!!! Within reason obviously, I mean you're not gonna follow her like a lost puppy, but keep an eye on her...

You could still work on it from there...
 

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Awesome man, I can relate.

I arrived at one of the biggest parties in SA (Hatfield Square, yeah baby!) about 10 to midnight. I excused myself from my friends and went hunting. I saw a 9 busy standing aside from a crowd of drunk friends, looking rather out of place.

And she was biting her nail. So I came up and told her that if she's hungry she can always take me out for a quick midnight snack. She giggled and we started chatting. in 5 mins I had playful kino, in 8 I was holding her hand. When the countdown started, I went in and kissed her. Heh... awesome feeling... except for the morning after... Aww, my head!

I also think you should call ther girl up sometime later... I know I'm gonna call the one I got!

:D
 

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Haha good stuff Oakz!!

Yea, well in my opinion you called her and left a message, leaving the ball in her court - if shes at all interested then she will call you back, however on this occasion i'd call her if i were you. The reason being this - its damn hard to get a girl worth keeping on New Years Eve and/or Xmas - tis that time of the year were girls get to let their hair down and banish that ASD and LMR from theirs and everyone elses lexicon - its Xmas and New Years - EVERYTHING GOES!!!

I got six makeout closes when the bells hit in my local night club - SIX in 10 minutes!! I wouldnt usually get that in a night!! - ive done 3 before - but the reason i got 6 is because EVERYTHING GOES - girls get to live out all their romantic fantasies on New Years and Xmas because everyone else knows that its all about having fun -their not slvts for kissing you - and even fvcking you, because its New Years!!!

Once again - i would Text the girl the day after you got the number to let her know that your not just a club guy - thats the last thing you want, texting the day after shows her your interested but at the same time doesnt show the neediness of a phone call -which girls view as being more personal, then call her the day after the text to set up a Day2.

Good luck mate

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When i left my number i didnt really expect her to call me back. My area code isnt one people recognize so no one ever answers. I was thinking she would put my number in her phone so that whenever i called or texted her she would know who it was. What should i text her? Texting isnt my strong point, no voice and tone makes it hard for me and my crazy personality.
 

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