"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: Never be Timid and be ready to strike when the iron is hot...

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Talked with this very cute massage therapist/yoga instructor online a few times back and forth before she suggested we exchange numbers...we did so, texted back and forth a few times, I asked her fairly directly when she would be available for drinks, she said she wanted to talk to me a few minutes first and then we could go from there if we both still wanted to.

I teased her saying well I know it won't be an issue on her part, so she better hope she doesn't screw up and ruin things...asked if she could call me the following day as she is working late, etc...so she texted me a few times during the day saying she was looking forward to talking to me, etc...I played it cool and said I was as well, she calls me up, we talk on the phone for 10 minutes or so, we are having a good back and forth convo going, so I ask her when she would be available to grab a drink and meet, and she said well, what about tonight and that she thought I meant that we could meet after we talked on the phone. I didn't have anything planned and was off from the gym so I said let's go for it. Got off the phone at 8:45, set up date for 9:45, she said she couldn't stay long because she had to be at a meeting at 6:30 AM tomorrow morning, I said no issues, I won't keep her out too late...met up, she was looking extremely cute with a banging yoga body...very artsy, etc...

She told me how sexy and confident I sounded on the phone and that she liked what she saw in person even more...we sat down, grabbed a drink, she sat close to me in a booth, knees touching...within about 15 minutes we were all over each other...I started ramping up the aggression, pulling her hair gently and then slightly more forcefully tilting her head to the side as I kissed her and she was loving it, kissing and then nibbling on her earlobes, kissing her neck, etc...at one point she told me she loved how I wasn't afraid to kiss her in front of other people in public and I told her "I don't care about anyone else, I only care about you right now" and she just stuck her tongue down my throat and kissed me very passionately...

So after more kino, rubbing all over etc, I could tell she was debating whether she wanted to fvck me tonight...she just was like "I am so tempted to just skip the meeting tomorrow but I can't because I need to build my client base..." but I could tell if pushed the issue she would have broken...but I told her no worries, I'll let her go so she can get some rest and she said "Oh, we will just save that for Date 2..." and smiled and kissed me while rubbing me all over...I felt like I would have probably gotten it but it would have also made me look a little desperate to get laid...I'm confident this will get taken care of next date.

Walked her to her car, shoved her up against the door, grabbed her hands, picked them over her head and pinned her there...she was LOVING it... I let go of her hands and they start wandering all over me...she tells me I have the most amazing butt she has ever grabbed(its not a lie, I have an awesome butt), and that she needs to go before something else happens...

I played it cool and told her I would talk to her again later...she texts me 15 minutes after and thanks me for the date and says she looks forward to seeing me again...

Could have probably closed, but I am literally so confident at this point that I don't give a fvck, I'm the cat playing with the mouse...she will be taking this d!ck within the next week or two.

Don't be timid, just go for what you want, and be prepared to strike when the opportunity is there...As an aside, women LOVE it when you gently "slam" them up against a wall and pin them there by picking their arms up over their head...their pvssies start dripping from the display of masculinity and dominance...same with pulling their hair while you kiss them...
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A confident core is magnetically attractive. You had her and got her juices flowing before the meet evidenced by her comment of how "sexy and confident" you sounded on the phone.

Many DJs avoid the phone. But this thread serves as yet another example of how a little phone game can facilitate the lay or the equivalent desire much easier than text alone.

Good doings BITG.
 

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This is what we need more of. A good field report. Less whining. Good read. Good game. If you butt is awesome that means most likely that you work out. Thats why as a DJ it's a must that you do. Nothing better than a woman saying your body is secksy to stroke you ego and create a confidence feedback loop. Not saying you should depend on it.

I disagree with this being a phone over text thing. Op was seen as sexy and confident because he is sexy and confident. Knowing how to communicate with women doesn't depend on the medium. Depends on the DJ.

Kudos to OP.
 

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Good job not being desperate. Too many men fall for that.
 

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finally. some ****ing direct game! I dig it. I've also been doing the same thing, no beating around the bush, no timidness, no Bs. Direct and to the damn point. We don't have time for games. Good on you for being on top of your game.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well done. There is nothing wrong with the phone, gents.

You played everything well my friend. If a woman is pursuing you, you let her do it. It's her idea. All you have to do is not **** it up.

Keep us posted with a lay report next date.
 

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Ok, I haven't been in this situation often, so I'd like some advice as to how to maintain some balance with this.

This chick is basically wanting to know EVERYTHING about me...wants to add me on social media, etc...I told her I don't really do social media and she is just going to have to get to know me the old fashioned way through spending time together, etc...

It seems ever since then she seems like she is holding back a little, as if she thinks I'm trying to hide something, because I'm sure these weak dudes she is used to dealing with probably just go along with her every whim. I honestly don't do social media so it's not like I was lying to her.

Now I had an experience with someone similar a while back and she was BPD, so I'm curious as to whether this chick might be similar in that regard.

Basically I told her I want her to get to know me but she seems intent on finding out everything right away...like she gave me her address, etc, invited me to come to a party yesterday and an event the day after I met her out, etc...

I'm unsure of what to think at this point. I'd like to see where this goes but I have to just get her to relax a little bit and slow things down...any advice on how to convey this without sounding like I'm trying to brush her off?

I know going along with what she is asking will lead to a burning the candle at both ends which will simply lead to a hot start that dies out just as fast, which isn't really what I want I'm this instance.
 
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