Hi everyone. Darth reporting in.
So I went over to this Chinese girl's place. She cooked for me and we ended up making out for over an hour. During this, I said some pretty stupid things in the heat of the moment that, looking back, were a mistake.
For instance, she said I'm not the kind of guy that dates a lot of women. Are you? Am I wrong? So I looked at her and said, no. She also asked me if I had had other girls in the past. Tell me the truth, she said. I said, no, I've never kissed anyone before you. She hadn't either.
And, I told her I liked her and that sometimes it was lonely without someone to talk to.
Complete wuss-type stuff.
Now, to my credit, I did some things right. I didn't tell her I loved her. I also told her straight up I'm not marrying her, so she doesn't get the wrong impression. But then I said but as long as we're here in the same city, you know....
And trailed off.
Now, this is a sensitive girl. If I stopped seeing her, it would completely break her heart.
It's true, no girl has ever been THAT into me before. I found a blog on the Internet with my name in it. The site was down, but I clicked "cache" and read it. It was an imaginary letter to me and "love at 2nd sight" and "How did I meet you I need to pray and thank Lord."
But I left the wrong impression. I'm not THAT into her. I said certain things because I wasn't thinking straight at the time.
However, I would like to keep things open for other girls I know. So what, proceed as normal and just limit this Chinese girl to once every week or two? Technically I didn't commit to anything (except imply that I would see her for two years, which is pretty big).
Am I making too much out of this?
Maybe I should just be honest next time and say, look, I want you to know, there *are* other girls I'm seeing. But what's the most tactful way to say this.
I need some techniques to both limit time commitment on my part and make her so she isn't taking this so seriously. Before it's too late.
Thnks.
So I went over to this Chinese girl's place. She cooked for me and we ended up making out for over an hour. During this, I said some pretty stupid things in the heat of the moment that, looking back, were a mistake.
For instance, she said I'm not the kind of guy that dates a lot of women. Are you? Am I wrong? So I looked at her and said, no. She also asked me if I had had other girls in the past. Tell me the truth, she said. I said, no, I've never kissed anyone before you. She hadn't either.
And, I told her I liked her and that sometimes it was lonely without someone to talk to.
Complete wuss-type stuff.
Now, to my credit, I did some things right. I didn't tell her I loved her. I also told her straight up I'm not marrying her, so she doesn't get the wrong impression. But then I said but as long as we're here in the same city, you know....
And trailed off.
Now, this is a sensitive girl. If I stopped seeing her, it would completely break her heart.
It's true, no girl has ever been THAT into me before. I found a blog on the Internet with my name in it. The site was down, but I clicked "cache" and read it. It was an imaginary letter to me and "love at 2nd sight" and "How did I meet you I need to pray and thank Lord."
But I left the wrong impression. I'm not THAT into her. I said certain things because I wasn't thinking straight at the time.
However, I would like to keep things open for other girls I know. So what, proceed as normal and just limit this Chinese girl to once every week or two? Technically I didn't commit to anything (except imply that I would see her for two years, which is pretty big).
Am I making too much out of this?
Maybe I should just be honest next time and say, look, I want you to know, there *are* other girls I'm seeing. But what's the most tactful way to say this.
I need some techniques to both limit time commitment on my part and make her so she isn't taking this so seriously. Before it's too late.
Thnks.