"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: My first American girl

BeTheChange

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TL DR My first American girl. Girls "travelling" alone or on holiday are easy mode.


Was on my first tinder date of the night at 8:30pm with a HB6. She looked much better in pictures...made an excuse to close early to meet my second date for the night, a cute HB8 Spanish chick at salsa around 10:30pm. Enroute I get a text via Tinder from an American girl visiting London that I'd been chatting to. She's free tonight. I figure I can see this Spanish girl another time (who's out with friends anyway btw). Plus flaking on her is DHV.

Meet the American girl instead. HB9. Serious. Italian American, brunette, about 5'7, from New Jersey, lives in Penslyvania and a feminist. We grab a drink, then I take her to a shisha bar (think you guys call it Hookah). I offer to take her back to her place (which is far). She says I dont need to so I say how about we grab a few drinks at my place instead. She is keen. We get an uber back there and do the dirty. The end.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's never a boring night with double- or triple- headers, heh.

Italian from Jersey, did she have the "Joysey" accent. Most of my gfs in my 20s were first-generation American Italians who made great gfs, as their families are strictly patriarchal, and men are given significant deference.

I predominantly date Italian/Eastern European/Russian girls (non-money hungry type), first generation or recently immigrated. I find them to be the hottest and most compatible women.
 

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We went out together last night too. Was planning to take her to a spot where a few of my friends had booked a table with bottle service but she hadn't packed smart shoes and the venue has a strict dress code.

Instead we went clubbing elsewhere. Took her back to my place and we had fun for a good few hours. She went straight from my flat to her place to pack and then direct to the airport, no sleep. I didn't go to bed until 7 am.

T'was a good two nights. She really enjoyed herself. Wanted to add me on facebook and ask that I keep in touch. Unless she gets a boyfriend I can see her being a solid link if I'm ever travelling to the East coast of the US, just because as a stranger in a foreign land you automatically have that ephemeral status and a more pronounced sense of mystery. Was thinking of hitting NYC some time in the Autumn so we will see what the future brings.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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