"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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FR: Mental tip, know your strength ...

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Tonight I was at accounting tutoring and I had to get get a drink. And as I was walking out two girls I have been flirting with on occasion were just walking in through the hallway and they caught me coming out, so one of them said:

Girl: Hey, are you skipping class?
Me: I sure am!
Girl:You should be ashamed about yourself.

So, I walked down the hall and then headed back, and I noticed they were walking towards me, and one of the girls came and stood right in fron of me and looked me in the eyes with a big smile on her face, and I looked at her back smiling.

After a few seconds I asked..

Me: what?

She just stood there and giggled a little and then she stepped out of the way and the other girl came up and asked:

Girl: I've had a stressful day.
Girl: Can I have a hug?
Me: Sure, what are you going to give me?

The other girl was watching this and started to giggle when I said that.

Girl: [facial look changed] hmmm, a hug...
Me: [opening arms] Alright, come give me a hug.

So she was standing there hugging me for about 30 seconds and said

Girl: I'm done, are you done?
Me: Nope

*15 seconds later*

Girl: Are you done yet?
Me: Nope, still not done...

15 seconds later past and she got impatient and started squirming out of my arms saying "let me go." So I let her go and said "I'm done now."

She didn't seem very happy. She commented that it "wasn't a hug that I gave her," so I just walked off after she said that.

My AFC self wants to tell me that I did wrong, but I truly don't know as I just acted myself. I guess if I really screwed up on her and she stops giving me open IOIs I can always find another girl that will willfully want to flirt/make-out whatever. I have other ones anyways.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sounds like the hugging went on too long. Sounds kind of klingy or something.

You should have accused her of trying to grab your ass or something.

C + F
 
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Originally posted by Ever onward
Sounds like the hugging went on too long. Sounds kind of klingy or something.

You should have accused her of trying to grab your ass or something.

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I was actually teasing her be cause she insisted on getting a hug. It's possible I had blown it, but then who knows. She could come prancing by me tommorow wanting a kiss on the cheek or something for all I know.
 
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Duuuuude

Why did you just walk off? You're too insecure, you should've just continued flirting with them.

And how come you didn't hug the other girl?

Jeez man... Come on... just cause you're hugging her for one minute, doesn't mean you're should be embarassed.

Talk to the other chick. Give her a hug. Say that you're not sure which girl you like hugging better. Hug them both. Kiss them on their cheeks.

I mean COME ON MAN! 2 girls have hots for you and you get shy cause you hugged one of them for too long.

Work on your insecurities.
 
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My god, where the fvck do you find these girls all the time rgreere?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Dapper Swindler
My god, where the fvck do you find these girls all the time rgreere?
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They sort of find me ... I get approached by cute sometimes hot girls all the time. I had twelve of them by the first day of freshman orientation.

The problem is that a few of them who are interested always taper off from me blowing them off after a while.
 
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