"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FR: Library Date

everywomanshero

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Ok so this chic sounded kind of, ummm, like possible low status material. What did I do? I had her meet me at the library. You can usually find a quiet, non-crowded place in any library. You don't need to buy dinnner, and you don't feel any pressure to drink.

Worked very well. I think a little too well. She was calling me on my cell 10 minutes after I cut the date off.

Good stuff on this "date":

1. She tried to insist she was the prize by telling me stories of guys, including her 4 yr old nephew, saying she's pretty. I countered by pointing out some flows in her social ineptness

2. She bought into all of my stories pretty well. My newfound overwhelming confidence seems to continue working in almost all situations. My grocery store game is still weak, I cannot figure that one out except to hang by magazine racks.

3. I successfully evaded having to kiss her by waiting for when she turned to look at me and blocking with a hug whilst both bodies remained at too far an angle to kiss.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dust 2 Dust

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What did you do on your date, just talk? I've number closed chicks in libraries before, but i've never heard of going there for an actual date.
 

everywomanshero

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Yep

Yes, I just rehearsed a bunch of canned material for about 2 hours before going. I was trying to hurry home in time to meet this other chic, I ran out of time before I ran out of material.
 

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Yeah a library date is new to me. I've had study-meets with girls, but never a date

I'd prefer to go to a starbucks or something
 

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Material? Improve your game and let it come natural. Just nounce and counter with stories if you want to connect. Or just nounce and let her do all the talking.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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American_Psycho

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Originally posted by everywomanshero

3. I successfully evaded having to kiss her by waiting for when she turned to look at me and blocking with a hug whilst both bodies remained at too far an angle to kiss.
Why wouldn't you go for the kiss if you felt things went well?
 
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