"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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FR: Last nights party, increasing results

Hughman

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Thought I'd post an FR up before I go for a siesta (got another night out tonight)

So I arrive at a friends party, usual stuff, bit of drinking, some dancing. However, I now use kino where most of my male friends wouldn't dream of doing it unless in a relationship or wasted. And guess what, I got positive results! (I wonder why :D) The host HB9 who is normally really reserved around guys didn't shy away from me and then joined me in some good rave dancing. Plenty of dancing with other girls as well (alas no grinding, few suitable songs and it would have looked out of place)

The girl (HB8) who is currently giving me the most promising signals unfortunately has got back with her jerk boyfriend for the 3rd time now (and I can finally see why she keeps him, even though he's pretty dumb, poor and fugly), however, when I overheard this I simply shook my head lightly and walked away from her (when even 3 months ago I would have been an emotional tampon). For the rest of the night she would insist on grabbing my hand and dancing with me (gave her plenty of twirls and close-body contact)

The moral of the story: kino, not drinking as much as everyone else, rewarding 'good' behaviour and disapproving of 'bad', and refusing to be a tampon.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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yungahdubz

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Where in Birmingham you from? :D
 

Hughman

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Sutton Coldfield, such a 'hole, much prefer to spend my time in the City Centre or Lichfield.
 
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