"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: Last nights party, increasing results

Hughman

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Thought I'd post an FR up before I go for a siesta (got another night out tonight)

So I arrive at a friends party, usual stuff, bit of drinking, some dancing. However, I now use kino where most of my male friends wouldn't dream of doing it unless in a relationship or wasted. And guess what, I got positive results! (I wonder why :D) The host HB9 who is normally really reserved around guys didn't shy away from me and then joined me in some good rave dancing. Plenty of dancing with other girls as well (alas no grinding, few suitable songs and it would have looked out of place)

The girl (HB8) who is currently giving me the most promising signals unfortunately has got back with her jerk boyfriend for the 3rd time now (and I can finally see why she keeps him, even though he's pretty dumb, poor and fugly), however, when I overheard this I simply shook my head lightly and walked away from her (when even 3 months ago I would have been an emotional tampon). For the rest of the night she would insist on grabbing my hand and dancing with me (gave her plenty of twirls and close-body contact)

The moral of the story: kino, not drinking as much as everyone else, rewarding 'good' behaviour and disapproving of 'bad', and refusing to be a tampon.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yungahdubz

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Where in Birmingham you from? :D
 

Hughman

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Sutton Coldfield, such a 'hole, much prefer to spend my time in the City Centre or Lichfield.
 
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