"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FR: Kiss + number close

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Alright folks, just came back clubbing. here's a FR report for your amusement. I went clubbing alone and met this girl. let's call her girl K.

Me: (sitting by myself, enjoying the beats)
(Girl K came with her girlfriends, they sat next to me, taking pictures and giggles and stuff)
Me: Hi! I am sharkybear (to girl K)
K: hi I am K!
Me and K: bla bla bla (some conversation, I forgot what)
Me: you like the beat?
K: Yeah!
Me: wanna dance?
K: sure! (talked to her gf that she's going dancing -- good thing they weren't ****blocking)

(dancing, really close kino, spin)

K: let me introduce you to my cousin (apparently one of her gfs was her cousin)
Me: sure!

(her cousin went somewhere, so we went back chilling at the spot with one of her gfs)

(several minutes later, they played my fav song)

Me: OMG! we have to go back!
K: (looking back at one of her gf - let's call her A)
A: go ahead (to K)

(we went back dancing..heavy kino again, and I managed to kiss her this time)

we then went to the other room playing different kind of music (more dancing and kino+kiss got heavier)

closing night, it turns out she's the designated driver. she handed me her number without me asking. Well, I didn't get laid tonight, but I had fun. :up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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Nice job. One of the keys here was her looking over to her friends (cousin?) for approval to keep hanging out with you. You seemed okay, so they allowed it (or maybe they just wanted to make sure the DD had fun too).

What's also good here is that since she was DD and was not drinking a lot, the number close holds more weight than it would for the average wasted club rat.
 

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
Nice job. One of the keys here was her looking over to her friends (cousin?) for approval to keep hanging out with you. You seemed okay, so they allowed it (or maybe they just wanted to make sure the DD had fun too).
Haha yeah. I was expecting they would give me dirty looks.

What's also good here is that since she was DD and was not drinking a lot, the number close holds more weight than it would for the average wasted club rat.
This is true. I just called her back. She said she'd been missing me a hell lot, asking me why I didn't call her. She really was expecting my call, making assumptions why I didn't call her, though it's possible it's bs. We'll see, I'll update the status.
 

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I forgot about this thread. Here's an update:

We met at my place. I showed her around my apt. Since I just got back from work that night, I was feeling icky. I ate while talking to her, then took a shower. She patiently waited for me (yes, at this point, we both knew that we both wanted to fvck, it's just not verbalized *important!*). I got off the shower, she was reading some random stuff on my desk asking me questions about it. I finished brushing my teeth, she was looking at some pictures on the wall, I hugged her from behind, told her about the pictures, then started kissing her, and you know the rest.

There was no resistance. We still meet each other to this day for some small dates between our busy schedule.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Prodigy746

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Nice job man, Big ups on going alone, i dont think i can do that just yet.
 

daygameguy

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mad props dude for going out alone..
 

sharkbeat

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It's a bit intimidating at first because you see people going out with friends and you are just by yourself, but once you are inside, nobody cares really, and as soon as you hit your target, it's all good.
 
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