She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Yeah but the whole PUA stuff is played out. We've advanced. What can we learn from them at this point in the game? Pickup is extremely circumstantial and invidualistic.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I am certainly all for those kind of posts too. But there are a lot new guys who routinely show up here that don't have the same level of experience or learning when it comes to women that we do from having been here for a number of years. Dissecting field reports is generally the best way to learn from their mistakes and others' mistakes. Pickup is certainly circumstantial but it is where it all begins.
I like field report posts and I comment on them when I see them.
Not my experience with bartendresses. They can be very frisky and that's why it's called "escalation." Everything is situational. However I think under the thigh was too far (and logistically weird, how does that work?). A very slight knee touch while talking would be safer IMO.
I see, true, point taken.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Agree with you there. Gotta let them do the heavy lifting if they want to play. There are some workarounds, like leaving her your number so there's no pressure on her. Usually I'm the one being pawed anyway.
Why does it baffle you? Combine horniness, loneliness and intoxication and it makes perfect sense.