"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FR: First week in Saigon

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So I've been in Saigon for about a week now, and it's pretty intense. The heat, of course, and the traffic. I'm in a TEFL (Teacher of English as a Foreign Language) program with some other Westerners and most of my time is taken up by classes. I'm also living in a single room in a small guesthouse in what is known as the 'Expat's Ghetto', which is certainly an accurate name. When i get a job I'll find a real apartment.

Vietnamese girls are beautiful, but so far I've only ran into a very few who can speak English. This may be my own fault since I haven't really made an effort to find the better-educated circles yet. A few women have oohed and aahed at my white skin and blonde hair, but they managed to be either extremely tiny or just plain.

I went out last night with some American British people in my program but since I don't really like clubs it wasn't much fun. A couple of cute girls did wave at me and kind of beckon, but I could barely keep my eyes open since I had been awake since 6 am (there's a fvcking rooster living somewhere in the alley where I'm staying) and I'd just had a couple of beers. I later heard from a Vietnamese friend of mine that the club we were in (Apocalypse Now) was known as 'Poxy Lips' for its profusion of prostitutes, so maybe I dodged a bullet.

I'll be going out again tonight and report back.

PS: and if any 20something DJs in the area have advice I'd be glad to hear it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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DAmn man...i thought about doing that. Ive been to Saigon...im Vietnamese. Its so great! Maybe we can hang sometime if i ever go back there man... PM me.
 

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Not much new to tell... more women demanding to feel my skin and stroke my hair. Alas! They couldn't speak English either. Where are the english-speakers all hiding?
 

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I love Ho Chi Minh City, I was there last month. I was amazed by the number of attractive women there. It is not something that I expected as before I went there I gave little thought to Vietnamese women. But as soon as I left the airport in a taxi, I saw gorgeous women riding around on scooters everywhere! And unlike the men there who seem to dress in rags, the women dress well, are slim (unlike in the Western world) and have that typical feminine Asian personalities (again lacking in the West). If you hang around District 1, you are more likely to find English speakers (although, unfortunately, you'll also find lots of tourists there too as that is the main tourist drag).
 

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seagull said:
I love Ho Chi Minh City, I was there last month. I was amazed by the number of attractive women there. It is not something that I expected as before I went there I gave little thought to Vietnamese women. But as soon as I left the airport in a taxi, I saw gorgeous women riding around on scooters everywhere! And unlike the men there who seem to dress in rags, the women dress well, are slim (unlike in the Western world) and have that typical feminine Asian personalities (again lacking in the West). If you hang around District 1, you are more likely to find English speakers (although, unfortunately, you'll also find lots of tourists there too as that is the main tourist drag).
I'm living in District 1 as it is, but in the scuzzy part and not in the nicer area around Dong Khoi. The DJ plan for the moment is to get in touch with some friends/family of the Vietnamese people I met at uni and, once i start teaching, see who the other teachers know.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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