"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FR: First date, kiss on cheek, post-date text

supCALI

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Had a pretty good first date tonight. Picked the girl up at her parents' house, didn't end up meeting them - texted her when I left that I'd call her when I'd pull up and sure enough when I called she was right out the door. Went to the first restaurant I was going to take her to but it was super crowded with people waiting outside so I suggested we split and go to another restaurant and she agreed. Sat across from her in a booth; conversation went smoothly, I qualified her and made her laugh but I regrettably didn't apply any kino. As we were walking to the car she goes "you're cool, you should call me again, we should drink" and I simply said "yeah". Drove her back to her place after a little over 2 hours together and she says I should park the car to talk, we're sitting there and she finishes her story. Tells me to call her again. I ask her if she wants me to walk her to the door (shouldn't have asked permission) but she says "it's okay, I just don't want my dad to see". She thanked me and kind of turned her body/face to the side where one side was parallel with the car seat and I kissed her on the cheek and she said "thanks for the kiss" and I bid her good night and drove off. Seems like I missed an opportunity, should I have put my hand on the side of her face and led her into the kiss?

Got a text from her about an hour after dropping her off saying "Thanks for taking me out!" and it's been almost 2 hours and I haven't replied yet. I'm not even sure what to say yet, guess I was put off by the cheek kiss.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You guys sound pretty young (at least she does), so no worries man.

"Let's drink" = "let's get freaky, but only if you can make it happen" (not rape).

Some more kino next time, some alcohol for the two of you (not too much), and have fun :up:
 

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ARrocket said:
You guys sound pretty young (at least she does), so no worries man.

"Let's drink" = "let's get freaky, but only if you can make it happen" (not rape).

Some more kino next time, some alcohol for the two of you (not too much), and have fun :up:
Thanks man; we are pretty young, I'm 20 and she's 18. Will definitely go for more kino and a lil booze next time. Just responded to her thank you text an hour ago saying "my pleasure".
 
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