You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ElStud said:
If you have only been around for the past few months how would you even know what ElSkip was refering to?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hey, don't got to defend yourself for me.belividere said:
- If, you are ElStud??Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Come on GWA baby, you know the only reason you troll my post is because you love me baby. Sorry though, I'm straight hon. Tip though, stop giving people advice, if you haven't personally tested it. Better yet, stop messing with those who are actually doing something.Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
Yes, what you're not seeing is the joke is on you buddy. Haha, but I love ya for that though man, you'd waste 20 minutes of your day to make a BS post about me. If you're willing to do that, I can't hate you man, even if you are an idiot, who doesn't have any FR's or success. It's just funny you would waste that kind of time on little old me. You wasted 20 minutes you could of been using to talk to girls or something. But I guess to you making fun of those who are actually improving is more fun than actually going out. But that's not my problem though, because while you're sitting here on SoSuave getting your daily laugh and corrupting the forums, I'm out there actually doing something with my life.Obliteraga said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ElStud said:
Please do so!Obliteraga said:
Obliteraga, definitley demand for more "FRs"ElStud said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How does that work, aren't you on the forums now? Probably just as much, if not more than him. Don't tell me.. you carry a laptop and post FR's on the fly! Make sure the girls don't find out your secret to sucess, they might lose interest.ElStud said:
A man who refers to another man as "hon" does not plead a good case for heterosexuality.ElStud said:
ElStud said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.