"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Flabbergasped?

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Long story short:

I told this girl a while ago I wasn't interested in her (my exact words were "I don't find you attractive" or something). I was drunk, who cares.

Of course, this perplexes her (cus she's hot), and she's being receptive to kino, holding my hand etc.

At some point, I try to run evolution phase-shift (I've never done it before though, so I'm bad at calibrating it) and after the whole smell thing, it somehow falls apart. I think I did it too early. I try to kissclose a couple more times (I really just triangular-gaze, I don't actually go in for anything because I didn't get the good eye contact).

At some point, she asks me if there's any girls in the room I like (we have these talks all the time). I say her, she's like "I thought you thought I wasn't attractive." I figure its now or never on the kiss, pull her in, she pushes me away and goes to talk with my good friend. I'm like "whatever", so I go talk to some other chick I'm gaming, and the first girl just stares at me every so often, she's trying to make me jealous of course.

I leave, hammered, after a while. Last thing I see is her talking to some half-naked dude, if they boned, it doesn't affect me.

So, my question is, is this all the classic dillema where a girl asks interested because you show no interest, but as soon as you do, she's satisfied and runs for the hills?

Or is there still a chance somewhere?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Flabbergasped?

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bump, i may see her later and would like feedback on how to approach it.
 
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It sounds like exactly what you said, she just wanted to make sure you were interested in her and she doesn't want anymore.

If you see her just pretend like it never happened, don't be awkward about it or anything.
 
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Flabbergasped? said:
Long story short:

I told this girl a while ago I wasn't interested in her (my exact words were "I don't find you attractive" or something). I was drunk, who cares.
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why did you tell her that? did she ask your opinion of her or something? my canned response when a girl asks my opinion of her is (if i like her), "yeah, your pretty cool I guess", with a coy smile. Keeps the mystery thing still going. telling her your not attracted to her put her on the defensive, and I think you killed the mystery, put up her defenses, and you might of blown your chances.
 
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classic dilemma, especially when you deal with hors
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You know what you have done. An attractive woman KNOWS she is attractive. She expects you to think so. She just wanted to get you to actually say it. Check mate good sir. Better luck next time, eh?
 
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