"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Flabbergasped?

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Long story short:

I told this girl a while ago I wasn't interested in her (my exact words were "I don't find you attractive" or something). I was drunk, who cares.

Of course, this perplexes her (cus she's hot), and she's being receptive to kino, holding my hand etc.

At some point, I try to run evolution phase-shift (I've never done it before though, so I'm bad at calibrating it) and after the whole smell thing, it somehow falls apart. I think I did it too early. I try to kissclose a couple more times (I really just triangular-gaze, I don't actually go in for anything because I didn't get the good eye contact).

At some point, she asks me if there's any girls in the room I like (we have these talks all the time). I say her, she's like "I thought you thought I wasn't attractive." I figure its now or never on the kiss, pull her in, she pushes me away and goes to talk with my good friend. I'm like "whatever", so I go talk to some other chick I'm gaming, and the first girl just stares at me every so often, she's trying to make me jealous of course.

I leave, hammered, after a while. Last thing I see is her talking to some half-naked dude, if they boned, it doesn't affect me.

So, my question is, is this all the classic dillema where a girl asks interested because you show no interest, but as soon as you do, she's satisfied and runs for the hills?

Or is there still a chance somewhere?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Flabbergasped?

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bump, i may see her later and would like feedback on how to approach it.
 
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It sounds like exactly what you said, she just wanted to make sure you were interested in her and she doesn't want anymore.

If you see her just pretend like it never happened, don't be awkward about it or anything.
 
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Flabbergasped? said:
Long story short:

I told this girl a while ago I wasn't interested in her (my exact words were "I don't find you attractive" or something). I was drunk, who cares.
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why did you tell her that? did she ask your opinion of her or something? my canned response when a girl asks my opinion of her is (if i like her), "yeah, your pretty cool I guess", with a coy smile. Keeps the mystery thing still going. telling her your not attracted to her put her on the defensive, and I think you killed the mystery, put up her defenses, and you might of blown your chances.
 
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classic dilemma, especially when you deal with hors
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You know what you have done. An attractive woman KNOWS she is attractive. She expects you to think so. She just wanted to get you to actually say it. Check mate good sir. Better luck next time, eh?
 
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