"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FR:"Do you usually approach and talk to random people like this"

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I walked up to this girl on my way off campus and just straight out said, very loudly,


Me:" Hey, how was you day."
Her: "Do you usually approach and talk to random people like this."
Me:"not USUALLY"
3 second pause
Me: "Do you got a problem with it?"
Her: "No, it just is strange in [name of our city, which is big]"
10 second pause
Her:"How was your day"

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Then we just talked.

How could I have handled this better?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Cheiradawg

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I think it was handeled well. She seemed really nice. You should have number closed and went out on a date.
 

blienk

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You can't just go up to people you don't know and ask them about their day. It's one thing to do it at parties or social events, but just on the street, most people won't bother with you.

You'll have better luck if you find an "excuse" to talk to people, no matter how lame the excuse is. For example, if you're in line at a McDonalds or something, ask a girl "So what are you getting? Everything here's starting to taste the same to me!" and then take things from there. Or if you're coming out of a class, say "Is this class bullsh-t or what? I don't know how that dude became a professor".

Basically, just find a reason to comment on the situation around you. That gives you an immediate connection with the girl, and she won't be confused about why you're talking to her.
 

sharpshooter

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yeah

always have some sort of a reason, even if it's a stupid one (and a lie).

Like today I was walking around askin people if they had change for a dollar, got into two short convo's with it
 

khanboy

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You did good kid, and don't listen to these guys, you don't need a reason to interact with another human being. You're wanting to converse with a female is reason enough.

Yeah, you may get that "Do you do this often?" sort of response, but they're cool with talkin to ya, they're just curious.

Example of one time:

Me: "Hey, How's it going?"
Her: (Some one word response)
Me: "So, you blah blah blah..."
Her: "Ya, um, blah blah blah..."
Her: "So, do you walk up to random people and start talking to them like this very often?"
Me: "Yeah, sometimes, why?"
Her: "I'm just curious, cause this one time... (Stories about old folks asking where her dad works while she's travelling on the bus, lol 'Why do they want to know where my dad works?')"
Her: "So, do people sometimes act unfriendly?"
Me: "lol, of course."
Her: "Does it bother you?"
Me: "Meh, everyone's different."
Her: "Hmm... blah blah, other stuffs..."

What I'm trying to show you is that you don't need a reason, chicks are more than happy to converse with males.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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