"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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FR: Coffee (ugh) 'date'

ARrocket

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Recently moved to a new city, started a dance class. There's this HB7 in there who immediately showed high IL, so after the second class I grabbed her number, saying 'maybe we can grab a drink this weekend,' to which she promptly replied: "Yeah well there's this coffee shop I like to go to..." I didn't respond to that.

So a few days later I text her to say what's up, and she immediately responds and offers to meet at this coffee shop. I thought about suggesting drinks instead (I don't even like coffee), but decided to play it her way.

I get to the spot, few minutes late, she's freaking sitting there studying. This got me all kinds of worried, but I went and got my disgusting coffee, and turns out she wouldn't be drinking any...no complaints there.

Luckily she puts the books away, and we chatted for maybe 30 minutes, her across the table from me. Things were getting stale, so I suggested we walk somewhere touristy that she had yet to visit (teased her about being a bad tourist). Well, turns out this walk was WAY longer than I thought it would be...maybe almost an hour at our slow pace. Too much talking, I struggled to keep the conversation up, oh well. We get there, talk a bit more, and then I decide it's time to head back, so I walk her home.

Pulled her in for a hug, then as she's pulling back, I kinda held her there (this felt kind of awkward and forced), then went in for the kiss, seemed to be received well. No heavy make-out, but she seemed into it. So we'll see what happens from here.

Probably should have been more physical contact throughout (she actually initiated that first), and I wish it hadn't drawn out so long, but I guess overall it went pretty well.

Thanks for reading.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Solomon

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Not in soda anymore huh? I envy you, in a good way

Coffee dates? wtf is that? lol I don't do dates anymore and if I do it's drinks. Keep it cheap, one thing I learned the hard way is dinner dates seldom got me there....
 

ARrocket

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Yeah man, I've been out of 'soda' for almost a year now, I'll miss that life though.

BTW I meant to include: Turns out she cannot drink much alcohol (health reasons), so she doesn't like going to bars.
 
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