"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FR: Coffee (ugh) 'date'

ARrocket

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Recently moved to a new city, started a dance class. There's this HB7 in there who immediately showed high IL, so after the second class I grabbed her number, saying 'maybe we can grab a drink this weekend,' to which she promptly replied: "Yeah well there's this coffee shop I like to go to..." I didn't respond to that.

So a few days later I text her to say what's up, and she immediately responds and offers to meet at this coffee shop. I thought about suggesting drinks instead (I don't even like coffee), but decided to play it her way.

I get to the spot, few minutes late, she's freaking sitting there studying. This got me all kinds of worried, but I went and got my disgusting coffee, and turns out she wouldn't be drinking any...no complaints there.

Luckily she puts the books away, and we chatted for maybe 30 minutes, her across the table from me. Things were getting stale, so I suggested we walk somewhere touristy that she had yet to visit (teased her about being a bad tourist). Well, turns out this walk was WAY longer than I thought it would be...maybe almost an hour at our slow pace. Too much talking, I struggled to keep the conversation up, oh well. We get there, talk a bit more, and then I decide it's time to head back, so I walk her home.

Pulled her in for a hug, then as she's pulling back, I kinda held her there (this felt kind of awkward and forced), then went in for the kiss, seemed to be received well. No heavy make-out, but she seemed into it. So we'll see what happens from here.

Probably should have been more physical contact throughout (she actually initiated that first), and I wish it hadn't drawn out so long, but I guess overall it went pretty well.

Thanks for reading.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Not in soda anymore huh? I envy you, in a good way

Coffee dates? wtf is that? lol I don't do dates anymore and if I do it's drinks. Keep it cheap, one thing I learned the hard way is dinner dates seldom got me there....
 

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Yeah man, I've been out of 'soda' for almost a year now, I'll miss that life though.

BTW I meant to include: Turns out she cannot drink much alcohol (health reasons), so she doesn't like going to bars.
 
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