6 years ago, in high school I was a full forced raging AFC. My high school oneitis drove me to this site thanks to the help of my wise older brother. He saw me groveling over "Miss Perfect" and smacked some sense into me by showing me the light. This girl was average in the looks department, a 7 at best. She was a nice girl, but her personality was nothing to rave about. Regardless, I put her way up on a pedestal for months and I endured some of the most painful (now hysterical) AFC moments in my life. Long story short: She was into me, within a week I blew it, and I was LJBF'd.
6 years later, life is good and I've got a lot of experience under my belt. I finished up with college in May, and I'm back living in the same area I grew up. A few weeks ago, the ol' oneitis and I had a run in at a bar. It turns out, we still have some mutual friends. No sparks were flying on my end, as I said shes nothing crazy. I've maintained no feelings or desire for her over the years, but it was enjoyable because we were able to laugh about the hilarity of my AFC behavior with her in the past.
So as the weeks go by we continue to run into one another. Over the years I've developed a reputation in my social circle as a guy who meets a lot of people when out in public. I've come to love the process of meeting and dating new women (Thank you sosuave
). Anyhow, she had began taking notice of this. She started telling me how I've become a "ladies' man" and clinging to me when we'd see each other. She began contacting me insisting that we should hang out.
Initially I wasn't really thrilled about the idea of taking her out. I didn't want to waste a night out with a girl I have low interest in, but these damn forums plagued my mind. All the posts about the impossibility of breaking out of the friend zone came to mind. I decided to put myself up for a field test of sorts. I figured, what the hell, I'm curious to see if what people say is true... Can someone shatter the AFC impression that they laid on their old oneitis through years of self improvement? Could they see you in a different light despite the pathetic behavior that was exhibited in the past?
I avoided seeing her much at all over the next couple of weeks, because I didn't want to be to available to her. Yesterday, however she was texting/calling me more often than usual. She was insisting that we go out for drinks because she was leaving town the next day. It was in the bag. Sure enough, we went out, got hammered, and ended up back at my apartment. We hooked up and passed out at around 5am. She woke me up this morning insisting that I leave town with her for the weekend. I declined and she was on her way shortly after. The best case scenario from here would be to maintain an FB relationship with her from here on, but who knows. As long as she's not looking for anything serious.
This may or may not hold much relevance to some of the stuff discussed on these forums, but I thought it was interesting and assumed some of you might also. I do recall trying hard to win her over years back. I did everything I could to break out of the friend zone and carry out a relationship with her. Needless to say it didn't work. I found it interesting though, that years later when she saw changes in me, and that I had low to no interest level in her, she chased me.
Women are funny.
6 years later, life is good and I've got a lot of experience under my belt. I finished up with college in May, and I'm back living in the same area I grew up. A few weeks ago, the ol' oneitis and I had a run in at a bar. It turns out, we still have some mutual friends. No sparks were flying on my end, as I said shes nothing crazy. I've maintained no feelings or desire for her over the years, but it was enjoyable because we were able to laugh about the hilarity of my AFC behavior with her in the past.
So as the weeks go by we continue to run into one another. Over the years I've developed a reputation in my social circle as a guy who meets a lot of people when out in public. I've come to love the process of meeting and dating new women (Thank you sosuave
). Anyhow, she had began taking notice of this. She started telling me how I've become a "ladies' man" and clinging to me when we'd see each other. She began contacting me insisting that we should hang out. Initially I wasn't really thrilled about the idea of taking her out. I didn't want to waste a night out with a girl I have low interest in, but these damn forums plagued my mind. All the posts about the impossibility of breaking out of the friend zone came to mind. I decided to put myself up for a field test of sorts. I figured, what the hell, I'm curious to see if what people say is true... Can someone shatter the AFC impression that they laid on their old oneitis through years of self improvement? Could they see you in a different light despite the pathetic behavior that was exhibited in the past?
I avoided seeing her much at all over the next couple of weeks, because I didn't want to be to available to her. Yesterday, however she was texting/calling me more often than usual. She was insisting that we go out for drinks because she was leaving town the next day. It was in the bag. Sure enough, we went out, got hammered, and ended up back at my apartment. We hooked up and passed out at around 5am. She woke me up this morning insisting that I leave town with her for the weekend. I declined and she was on her way shortly after. The best case scenario from here would be to maintain an FB relationship with her from here on, but who knows. As long as she's not looking for anything serious.
This may or may not hold much relevance to some of the stuff discussed on these forums, but I thought it was interesting and assumed some of you might also. I do recall trying hard to win her over years back. I did everything I could to break out of the friend zone and carry out a relationship with her. Needless to say it didn't work. I found it interesting though, that years later when she saw changes in me, and that I had low to no interest level in her, she chased me.
Women are funny.
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