"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ElStud

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So I was sitting in the front of the school after play practice and I see Becky, this girl who plays drums in the play. So from what I can remember, she came up to me and said "Hey" and that's how it started. Early in the convo I said something "Wow, Becky, you're really good drums, I mean at first I thought you only did the marching band type drums, but you can do more rock style drums well too" and she said "Thanks" to that. Then I don't remember quite how we got into this, but I recalled that she was in a band and asked if they were doing any shows and she said "Well, we might play at the carnival, but we might schedule a gig somewhere". So eventually, when we're really into the convo, I start talking about how me and her should jam sometime and I bring up the idea and she's thinking it's really cool. So I take it a step further saying "Yeah, we're definitely going to jam sometime. But I'll need your number so I can call you" and she's like "Okay". So then I take out my cellphone and she gives it to me.

After that we pretty much just chilled. I remember one time in the convo where we where talking about track and she told me how she did the field events. At one point I started to put my arm around her while we where talking about that and I said "So you trying to make it to states this year?" and she's like "That's the plan!". And yeah, most of the rest was simple fluff like she was talking about how her parents were supposed be there already to pick her up and how 5 minutes is 30 minutes to her parents and I told her how my parents are like that too. One time during this session of fluff talk I remember simply randomly saying "Hug!" and I hugged her and she hugged me back. Eventually, I asked her if I could see her drumsticks and she said yes and I just started jamming with them. Eventually, her parents got there and she said she had to go. After that, I hugged her before she went and then she left and said "See you tommorow". So that was that report.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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HandyAndy said:
Really? I thought thats how it ended...
No but that's how you were reported.
 

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im_a_king said:
elstud, at least you didn't bring up rock band..i think you are better off talking about real music..its a lil more cool. also, why do you report everyone for everything..its just a forum
I really am surprised that he didn't. It looks like this convo actually went OK. Much better than his other ones at least.
 
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