A few weeks back i ended up making out with a coworker at a work related christmas event. We used to work in the same building, but now she has relocated so we work at different offices. I never really made any moves on her before, but always found her attractive. I've been able to demonstrate value in front of her by giving presentations to her department etc.
I would say she is a HB7. She is pretty tall (5'8), blonde and smart. She seems quality, but it's too soon to tell.
Last weekend a group of people from work, was having a pre-party in my apartment. She was one of the girls there. During the party she mentioned that she had a date that previous thursday and basically ripped the guys efforts to shreds. He had been self absorbed, inconsiderate and impolite. Makes me think it might have been one of you guys
Inside I wanted to defend the guy, but just said that he sounded awesome while giving her a cheeky smile. I told her she should give him a second chance, trying to falsely disqualify myself.
She got pretty tipsy and ended up spending the night at my place. I tried to close, but when i went for her ***** under her panties she removed my hand. I just laughed it off and went to grab her boobs instead and focused on building comfort. She has not told anyone at work that she spent the night, although people at my office were curious about what happened. I didn't say anything.
The following tuesday, she texted me. She asked if i wanted to grab some sushi and basically suggested my place. She would buy and bring the sushi. She managed to put in "No date" in the text.
I had soccer practice and had to reject the offer, but counter offered that i would like to take a raincheck, preferably this weekend. She agreed.
I wait until early friday morning, then i text her (translated):
Me: Good morning, sunshine. How does tomorrow at 7 sound?
HB7: Sounds good! I'm in. At your place? And i'll fix the food on my way? (Her second time offering to pay and bring the sushi)
Me: Yeah, we can stay at my place. I'd rather meet you there and order together. I wouldn't mind getting out of the house for a bit
HB7: I'm noticing that i'm just inviting myself Don't you trust me? No, that's fine. We can meet there.
Me: I don't want to risk you bringing me weird sushi I'd like to see the meny and have a Singha while we wait.
HB7: Okay, okay. I give in
Me: You better.
I don't confirm, and just show up the following day. I'm about 5 minutes late, and she is waiting when i arrive. Make 'em wait We order food, and i also order a beer to enjoy while we wait. She once again offers to pay. This restaurant is expensive and the check was for around 140 dollars. I decline and tell the waiter to split it in half. We pay and go to my place. I tell her she can buy me a drink another time since she seems so eager to pay.
I notice early that she didn't bring anything to drink. It's saturday evening. I ask her what she wants to drink and she says "just water". I can't accept that and just laugh it off. "No, i mean red or white wine? She says red and i open up a bottle, gives her a glass and leave the bottle on the table. I grab a beer for myself. I light some candles and we have dinner. Conversation is flowing. She is very easy to talk to. I try to ask interesting questions and have her talk about herself. I'm genuinely enjoying myself. I'm leading the interaction and my behaviour and body language is masculine.
I sometimes try to "cute" things up by sharing some softer sides of me, like how much i enjoy candle lights and that i'm more into it than chicks. I also comment on my teddy bear that i have in my bedroom. She noticed it the last time she was at my place. I made up some cute story. They always like that. It creates balance. It also gives the impression of a complex and diversified personality.
We talk about all kinds of subjects. We get into relationship talk. Both came out of long relationships in the past year. She still has contact with her ex, i dont'.
Something that i found very interesting was that she mentioned that my ex was really beautiful. She mentions this twice. My ex was a solid 9, which is waay better looking than me. I have debated whether to remove old photos from facebook, but came to the conclusion that whatever has happened in the past, still happened. So i don't bother to delete or remove anything. I'm unphased. I barely even use facebook. Judging by her reaction, it's massive social proof/preselection. And it also gives me the opportunity to tell her that beauty is common and not always enough. She might be beautiful, but she wasn't right for me. It's a better way to convey that mindset than to actively bring it up myself (e.g what do you have going for yourself besides your looks-line).
She gets several phone calls and texts during the evening, but ignores her phone completely. I like this. Good behavior.
After a few hours, I put on a movie. I haven't initiated any kino and we've been talking for about 3 hours. When i put on the movie, i tell her to come closer and pull her towards me. I kiss her for a few seconds and she rests her head on my chest as we watch the movie. We cuddle up and it's all very cosy.
After a while something interesting happens. While holding my arm around her, i turn my hand to glance at my watch. She immediately reacts to this and tells me that she knows it's late and that she will go home soon. I tell her that's not what i meant and that i would like it if she spent the night. She said that she felt like she just invited herself and that she couldn't know for sure if i meant it. One of the things that i have conveyed to her though is that i'm very straightforward and direct in the way i communicate. She has seen this at work, so i tell her, "Believe me, if i wanted you to leave, i would ask you to leave". She accepted this and we dropped the subject and continued watching the movie. Not the last time i will be looking at my watch while on a date Plant a seed of insecurity with the girl.
It's getting very late (4am) and we are both getting tired. At this point i'm too tired to escalate sexually and i focus on building deep rapport. I'm not trying to score tonight. My agenda changed. This is very unusual for me. I normally plow, but i'm trying a more relaxed, patient and indifferent approach lately. She asks if i have an extra toothbrush. I reply that i normally do, but there aren't any left. I say it with a smile, and she gives me the player-look. Cool. I ignore and tell her that she can borrow a toothbrush that i have barely used. She complies.
We get into bed, and starts kissing a bit. She asks if i brought a girl home the night before ( i was out with some friends). My inital reply was just "No". I thought, what a wussy response and said "But i had 3 girls over two nights ago. Best foursome in a while" Got a laugh and left the subject.
She keeps on her thong, her bra and a tank top. I always sleep in the nude. No exeption here. My bed, my rules. When we kiss, i almost change my mind about not trying to score, but manage to stick to the plan. We go to sleep. The next morning she is stroking me alot. She is scratching my back, my caresses my ass and is very physical. I touch her about half as much as she touches me. We keep building rapport. It's all very nice, but at this point i want her to leave. The gas pressure is building! Finally she leaves and I release epic fart:rock:
She texts me later that night and thanks me for a nice evening. All in all it was a great night and she may be gf material. She has good values and seems quality so far. She has a great body, although pretty small funbags. She is a health freak and works out in some form every day. She is very particular about what she eats, which is the only potential red flag i can see so far.
We will be attending the same party next friday, and this is where i have to make it more sexual. If i don't bang her soon, it will get awkward. Most my lays are ONS's so waiting this long is not my normal way. But it's definitely the deepest i've connected with a girl in a long time, so it may be something to this laidback-game.
I'm not really looking for anything serious now, because i'm focused on working on myself these days. I want to improve to be able to fix this part of my life forever. To know that i can always get a new, quality girl when and if a relationship ends. I don't feel like i'm there yet.
Definitely would like to bang this girl though and maybe keep her around for a while. If anyone is interested, i'll keep you posted. And feedback is always appreciated.
I would say she is a HB7. She is pretty tall (5'8), blonde and smart. She seems quality, but it's too soon to tell.
Last weekend a group of people from work, was having a pre-party in my apartment. She was one of the girls there. During the party she mentioned that she had a date that previous thursday and basically ripped the guys efforts to shreds. He had been self absorbed, inconsiderate and impolite. Makes me think it might have been one of you guys
Inside I wanted to defend the guy, but just said that he sounded awesome while giving her a cheeky smile. I told her she should give him a second chance, trying to falsely disqualify myself. She got pretty tipsy and ended up spending the night at my place. I tried to close, but when i went for her ***** under her panties she removed my hand. I just laughed it off and went to grab her boobs instead and focused on building comfort. She has not told anyone at work that she spent the night, although people at my office were curious about what happened. I didn't say anything.
The following tuesday, she texted me. She asked if i wanted to grab some sushi and basically suggested my place. She would buy and bring the sushi. She managed to put in "No date" in the text.
I had soccer practice and had to reject the offer, but counter offered that i would like to take a raincheck, preferably this weekend. She agreed.
I wait until early friday morning, then i text her (translated):
Me: Good morning, sunshine. How does tomorrow at 7 sound?
HB7: Sounds good! I'm in. At your place? And i'll fix the food on my way? (Her second time offering to pay and bring the sushi)
Me: Yeah, we can stay at my place. I'd rather meet you there and order together. I wouldn't mind getting out of the house for a bit
HB7: I'm noticing that i'm just inviting myself
Don't you trust me? No, that's fine. We can meet there. Me: I don't want to risk you bringing me weird sushi
I'd like to see the meny and have a Singha while we wait. HB7: Okay, okay. I give in
Me: You better.
I don't confirm, and just show up the following day. I'm about 5 minutes late, and she is waiting when i arrive. Make 'em wait
We order food, and i also order a beer to enjoy while we wait. She once again offers to pay. This restaurant is expensive and the check was for around 140 dollars. I decline and tell the waiter to split it in half. We pay and go to my place. I tell her she can buy me a drink another time since she seems so eager to pay.I notice early that she didn't bring anything to drink. It's saturday evening. I ask her what she wants to drink and she says "just water". I can't accept that and just laugh it off. "No, i mean red or white wine? She says red and i open up a bottle, gives her a glass and leave the bottle on the table. I grab a beer for myself. I light some candles and we have dinner. Conversation is flowing. She is very easy to talk to. I try to ask interesting questions and have her talk about herself. I'm genuinely enjoying myself. I'm leading the interaction and my behaviour and body language is masculine.
I sometimes try to "cute" things up by sharing some softer sides of me, like how much i enjoy candle lights and that i'm more into it than chicks. I also comment on my teddy bear that i have in my bedroom. She noticed it the last time she was at my place. I made up some cute story. They always like that. It creates balance. It also gives the impression of a complex and diversified personality.
We talk about all kinds of subjects. We get into relationship talk. Both came out of long relationships in the past year. She still has contact with her ex, i dont'.
Something that i found very interesting was that she mentioned that my ex was really beautiful. She mentions this twice. My ex was a solid 9, which is waay better looking than me. I have debated whether to remove old photos from facebook, but came to the conclusion that whatever has happened in the past, still happened. So i don't bother to delete or remove anything. I'm unphased. I barely even use facebook. Judging by her reaction, it's massive social proof/preselection. And it also gives me the opportunity to tell her that beauty is common and not always enough. She might be beautiful, but she wasn't right for me. It's a better way to convey that mindset than to actively bring it up myself (e.g what do you have going for yourself besides your looks-line).
She gets several phone calls and texts during the evening, but ignores her phone completely. I like this. Good behavior.
After a few hours, I put on a movie. I haven't initiated any kino and we've been talking for about 3 hours. When i put on the movie, i tell her to come closer and pull her towards me. I kiss her for a few seconds and she rests her head on my chest as we watch the movie. We cuddle up and it's all very cosy.
After a while something interesting happens. While holding my arm around her, i turn my hand to glance at my watch. She immediately reacts to this and tells me that she knows it's late and that she will go home soon. I tell her that's not what i meant and that i would like it if she spent the night. She said that she felt like she just invited herself and that she couldn't know for sure if i meant it. One of the things that i have conveyed to her though is that i'm very straightforward and direct in the way i communicate. She has seen this at work, so i tell her, "Believe me, if i wanted you to leave, i would ask you to leave". She accepted this and we dropped the subject and continued watching the movie. Not the last time i will be looking at my watch while on a date
Plant a seed of insecurity with the girl. It's getting very late (4am) and we are both getting tired. At this point i'm too tired to escalate sexually and i focus on building deep rapport. I'm not trying to score tonight. My agenda changed. This is very unusual for me. I normally plow, but i'm trying a more relaxed, patient and indifferent approach lately. She asks if i have an extra toothbrush. I reply that i normally do, but there aren't any left. I say it with a smile, and she gives me the player-look. Cool. I ignore and tell her that she can borrow a toothbrush that i have barely used. She complies.
We get into bed, and starts kissing a bit. She asks if i brought a girl home the night before ( i was out with some friends). My inital reply was just "No". I thought, what a wussy response and said "But i had 3 girls over two nights ago. Best foursome in a while" Got a laugh and left the subject.
She keeps on her thong, her bra and a tank top. I always sleep in the nude. No exeption here. My bed, my rules. When we kiss, i almost change my mind about not trying to score, but manage to stick to the plan. We go to sleep. The next morning she is stroking me alot. She is scratching my back, my caresses my ass and is very physical. I touch her about half as much as she touches me. We keep building rapport. It's all very nice, but at this point i want her to leave. The gas pressure is building! Finally she leaves and I release epic fart:rock:
She texts me later that night and thanks me for a nice evening. All in all it was a great night and she may be gf material. She has good values and seems quality so far. She has a great body, although pretty small funbags. She is a health freak and works out in some form every day. She is very particular about what she eats, which is the only potential red flag i can see so far.
We will be attending the same party next friday, and this is where i have to make it more sexual. If i don't bang her soon, it will get awkward. Most my lays are ONS's so waiting this long is not my normal way. But it's definitely the deepest i've connected with a girl in a long time, so it may be something to this laidback-game.
I'm not really looking for anything serious now, because i'm focused on working on myself these days. I want to improve to be able to fix this part of my life forever. To know that i can always get a new, quality girl when and if a relationship ends. I don't feel like i'm there yet.
Definitely would like to bang this girl though and maybe keep her around for a while. If anyone is interested, i'll keep you posted. And feedback is always appreciated.
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