"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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FR: 2 minute lift pick up

slickaz

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Ok so yday i saw someone (darth?) post up saying he felt anxious approaching..
so i replied with try just saying hi. even in a lift.
well this morning on my way to work i was going to the lifts in my apartment and saw this fine FB (8.5/9) in it.

i thought ok im sure i can do this and report it so guys that feel they need to be prepared with lines can see its not really that hard.
so here goes.

me: hey, morning..
she: Hi..mornin...<smiles back>
me: its closer to the weekend huh??!
she: oh yeh! tell me about it, i need this weekend!!
me: haha, well next weekends the loong weekend <we have monday off next week>
she: oh yeh! cant wait for that either, got some good plans.
me: oh yeh, im new here, anything good going on?
she: couple of parties, then im packing to go to Aspen to ski.
me: wow!! ski?!! niiiice aspen is beautiful..
she: yeh i never been but ive never ski'd either.
me: hahahaha im sure you'll be alryt..you ever rollerblade?
she: hahaha well no thats why i have a feeling im gonna get hurt..
<<we come to the ground floor>>
me: well if you can blade, then you got ur balance ryt..thats how i know ill survive on the ski's
her: yeh id love to learn how to blade first!!
me: how about you put ur number here and ill take you the local park on sat around lunch n teach you how to rollerblade..
she: wow! really? could you??im free sat after lunch anyway...
me: yeh..dont even worry bout it..n we guarantee you're safety ;)
she: hahaha ok i wont sign my life away :p but theres my number.
me: ill give you a text today so you get mine, id love to talk but i gotta get going to work..
she: ok, no problem well hit me up ill talk to you soon..have a good day.
me: see ya..


it may not be too much..
but i think it shows you dont need a play set up to get a number or a date set up the whole conversation was between the 22nd floor of my apartment building to the doors...prolly about 2 mins..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Darth

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Thanks very much for that, Slickaz. That's my style of convo^^. Great example.
 

slickaz

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Darth: You're welcome bro, start small and simple i say, just build ur confidence..you can talk about anything and get a date set up. its not difficult. just be yourself, talk about what you ALREADY know about..like mountain biking, or yoga or whatever. if its interesting to you and make it sound interesting, she'll be interested in you..its human nature to want to do smtn thats portrayed as cOOL..marketing folk thrive on this..

San Jose: thanks for the vote bro..appreciate it..it was very quick i walked away with a big smile like wow! i got a number of a hot girl that lives in my building..this is very very gooood..lol
 

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Nice 1 man....doesn't have 2 be fancy to work.
 

ElStud

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Good man, the fact that you are actually approaching already puts you above half the members of this forum who talk sh*t. Keep approaching!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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amoka

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Great job.... now no more elevator mute....
 
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