Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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This girl that i have been talking \with broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years a few months ago.. since hten, we have been talking and hookingup, and she wants to date officially, but i refuse. I feel that she wants to get back at her ex, and/or jus wants a boyfriend.

anyway, she is stupid enough to give me a hint at her password and i figured it out. I read her messages (low i know) and someone asked her if she was planning on gettin back together with him. She replied with somethin like "As of right NOW, we are just friends."

she still texts him, but claims that he always texts her and she is just humoring him, but is always short with him.

how can i confront her wihtout telling her i got her password, that or should i not say anything at all
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KontrollerX

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Your gut instinct is always right.

Just use her for sex as long as you can.

This is not the type of woman you give your heart to and start a relationship with.

Also don't confront her at all about it unless she keeps pressing the officially dating thing with you and it seems like she'll end it if you two don't date.

Make her guilty if you can and then exit stage left.
 

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confront her
Confront her with what?

News flash: you're not her fvcking boyfriend!

Leave her private sh!t alone.
 

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I was in this (almost) exact situation a couple months ago. This chick is trouble, as the bond that her and her ex-boyfriend had is not completely severed. There is still a connection there, no matter how much she denies it.

What you read through her messages are the blatant, plain and undistorted truth because they (as far as she knew) were completely away from your eyes. I personally would cut contact.
 

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requested said:
This girl that i have been talking \with broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years a few months ago.. since hten, we have been talking and hookingup, and she wants to date officially, but i refuse. I feel that she wants to get back at her ex, and/or jus wants a boyfriend.

anyway, she is stupid enough to give me a hint at her password and i figured it out. I read her messages (low i know) and someone asked her if she was planning on gettin back together with him. She replied with somethin like "As of right NOW, we are just friends."

she still texts him, but claims that he always texts her and she is just humoring him, but is always short with him.

how can i confront her wihtout telling her i got her password, that or should i not say anything at all
In some cases it is against the law to read her e-mail like that. I think you should end it with her on the account; you are not ready to date.

Work on yourself a little more. Get to the point where you are not checking your almost GF's E-Mail than begin dating again.

:kick:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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