"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This girl that i have been talking \with broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years a few months ago.. since hten, we have been talking and hookingup, and she wants to date officially, but i refuse. I feel that she wants to get back at her ex, and/or jus wants a boyfriend.

anyway, she is stupid enough to give me a hint at her password and i figured it out. I read her messages (low i know) and someone asked her if she was planning on gettin back together with him. She replied with somethin like "As of right NOW, we are just friends."

she still texts him, but claims that he always texts her and she is just humoring him, but is always short with him.

how can i confront her wihtout telling her i got her password, that or should i not say anything at all
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Your gut instinct is always right.

Just use her for sex as long as you can.

This is not the type of woman you give your heart to and start a relationship with.

Also don't confront her at all about it unless she keeps pressing the officially dating thing with you and it seems like she'll end it if you two don't date.

Make her guilty if you can and then exit stage left.
 

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confront her
Confront her with what?

News flash: you're not her fvcking boyfriend!

Leave her private sh!t alone.
 

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I was in this (almost) exact situation a couple months ago. This chick is trouble, as the bond that her and her ex-boyfriend had is not completely severed. There is still a connection there, no matter how much she denies it.

What you read through her messages are the blatant, plain and undistorted truth because they (as far as she knew) were completely away from your eyes. I personally would cut contact.
 

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requested said:
This girl that i have been talking \with broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years a few months ago.. since hten, we have been talking and hookingup, and she wants to date officially, but i refuse. I feel that she wants to get back at her ex, and/or jus wants a boyfriend.

anyway, she is stupid enough to give me a hint at her password and i figured it out. I read her messages (low i know) and someone asked her if she was planning on gettin back together with him. She replied with somethin like "As of right NOW, we are just friends."

she still texts him, but claims that he always texts her and she is just humoring him, but is always short with him.

how can i confront her wihtout telling her i got her password, that or should i not say anything at all
In some cases it is against the law to read her e-mail like that. I think you should end it with her on the account; you are not ready to date.

Work on yourself a little more. Get to the point where you are not checking your almost GF's E-Mail than begin dating again.

:kick:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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