"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Found Myself in a New Situation - Advice Wanted

evolvingnerd

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alrighty
now i got this ice skating thing planned in a couple of days
3 days to be precise
now i know i've come along way, but all advice is appreciated
now i'll be meeting up with some chicks from highschool. now i literally never talked to em in highschool, but i know they're heaps nice and friendly

how should i go about things/

keep in mind, i never talked to em before, so things may be a bit weird(??)
cheers
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by evolvingnerd
how should i go about things/
Treat them like you would any other friends...except that these friends you also wouldn't mind hooking up with, so mix in some sexuality for good measure. :D Don't make too big a deal out of it.

If they're coming out with you, you don't have to worry about making them like you. If they didn't like you, they wouldn't come out with you. You have to worry about having/showing them a good time. ;)
 

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my friend is organising it
and these chicks are friends of his, not mine
but i was wondering if u (guys) had any additional advice that would be good in such a scene

now in highschool, i was quite the quiet nerd who kept to his own small circle of friends

what i wanna do is create an impression that'll have em thinking "wow, he's changed, maybe i can talk to him later"
and hence forth, have this sortta impression recirculate around
cause i definitley know there are some nice chicks from my old school
 

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well try and be confident not shy, make your self the center of attention, you say you are ice skating well do somthing fun, ask 1 of them if they want to dance, not like a slow dance just more liek holding hands and spinning in a cricle on the ice type of thing and whilst you are ice skating its easy to forget about every one else and just skate, so make sure you interact with them the whole time, the good tihng about this is that you wont all be in a gropu the whole time you might split up and re join etc. so this means you will have some 1 on 1 time with each of the girls.

hope ive been a help
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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