Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Found Myself in a New Situation - Advice Wanted

evolvingnerd

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alrighty
now i got this ice skating thing planned in a couple of days
3 days to be precise
now i know i've come along way, but all advice is appreciated
now i'll be meeting up with some chicks from highschool. now i literally never talked to em in highschool, but i know they're heaps nice and friendly

how should i go about things/

keep in mind, i never talked to em before, so things may be a bit weird(??)
cheers
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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squirrels

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Originally posted by evolvingnerd
how should i go about things/
Treat them like you would any other friends...except that these friends you also wouldn't mind hooking up with, so mix in some sexuality for good measure. :D Don't make too big a deal out of it.

If they're coming out with you, you don't have to worry about making them like you. If they didn't like you, they wouldn't come out with you. You have to worry about having/showing them a good time. ;)
 

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my friend is organising it
and these chicks are friends of his, not mine
but i was wondering if u (guys) had any additional advice that would be good in such a scene

now in highschool, i was quite the quiet nerd who kept to his own small circle of friends

what i wanna do is create an impression that'll have em thinking "wow, he's changed, maybe i can talk to him later"
and hence forth, have this sortta impression recirculate around
cause i definitley know there are some nice chicks from my old school
 

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well try and be confident not shy, make your self the center of attention, you say you are ice skating well do somthing fun, ask 1 of them if they want to dance, not like a slow dance just more liek holding hands and spinning in a cricle on the ice type of thing and whilst you are ice skating its easy to forget about every one else and just skate, so make sure you interact with them the whole time, the good tihng about this is that you wont all be in a gropu the whole time you might split up and re join etc. so this means you will have some 1 on 1 time with each of the girls.

hope ive been a help
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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