"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
AzN KniGhT
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Mr. Mystery
Master Don Juan
Hahahaha!
Like what Professor?
Mr. Mystery
In my profession, I teach things that coincidetally are very similar and run parallel to topics of being a DJ. As far the the subjets that I teach, I dont want to get into that, just know that I feel the information can also be helpful here. If not, I understand. I'm sure we dont want other member to be posting large nonsence pictures taking up space that is not needed, or anything unappropriate.
Please, dont call me Professor... its Professor Kaizen.
jk"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Milliardo_Peacecraft
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I think they should rename this forum to : Whine to a deaf ear .
Whine on deaf ear... haha, that sucks. It just gets me worked up when I keep seeing all these questions that could all be answered with looking at one simple little illustration. So many people keep asking the same question... only in different ways, but I have this one particular illustration in mind that would answer them all. I dont know of anyone here has heard of the "BEAR cycle", but thats the one I've been having in mind.
I know how these forums work. I used to moderate forums like this a while ago. You can not delete your own posts. They have restricted that to admistration only. Yes... even your own posts where you click check in the box and click delete under editing.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
A: For 2 reasons. Images and graphics use a lot of bandwidth. Also, Allen (Admin) Does not want users posting Porn or offensive images.
Q: Why can't I delete my own posts?
A: Why post in the first place if you are going to delete it? This is another Admin controlled function. One of the posters (an old timer) got into an argument with another poster. Anyhow, he went back and edited/deleted all of his posts (maybe 100 or more) and left the forum. The posts he deleted were gems and would be in the DJ Bible today. I think 1 other DJ did the same thing. So Admin decided to take that away.
Milliardo_Peacecraft
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That funny because I am studying in network administration but I never knew that image sources hosted on other servers/website could use more bandwidth on a forum.
BTW:Its impossible.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I dont post with the intention of deleting it. I have found myself posting something that was harsh and uncalled for one time, and wanted to delete to avoid conflict. As for members deleting their old posts or editing their posts that were "gems". The Admin stop this function because they want to keep it on, but I feel that it is the posters right to let it stay on the forum or not since it is his knowledge that he is sharing, and the right shoudnt belong to anyone else... but thats just my opinion. I disagree with the Admin about that, but I suppose I can understand that my opinion doesnt matter, as long as they get what they want.
And hey, whats wrong with newbies? Technically, I'm a "newbie" in this forum too... even more so than that other guy.
I dont think anythings wrong with Newbies; theyre there what keep the forum stacked with new ideas.
I still reckon they should have a "newbie handle" for a bit though...some are already great at DJ'ing (judging by your posts Kaizen i think you fall into this category), however, some are very AFC, absolute beginners that have no concept of being a DJ' or a PUA (-I wasa true AFC, but i read the bible for a few months before posting...maybe some of my posts are still AFC at times** but at least i know the general concepts of the board ).
I find that we do get a lot of similar threads along the lines of "I've got her number/kissed her...what now?". Its great that we can offer advice- but the advice is always along the same lines
Hmmm...maybe an easy entrance exam based on basic principals on how to pick up chycks-or- a newbie forum where they have to make 20-30 posts before they can enter the other forums...
...maybe you all disagree with me?
Any ideas?
**Hopefully not this post!
PS: You can always re-edit your post with the edit-button on the bottom left of the window. Doesnt always load/show
up on my screen though-but is is there!
The "entrance exam" idea is good, but I feel it might discourage some new memebers to sign on.
As for the re-edit... there is a time limit for editing a post. After a certain amount of time, your post is completely locked out to you and you can no longer edit it. I dont agree with this, but I understand the reasoning behind it.