Former Stacy harridan at age 47 laments getting a divorce

[MatureDJ]

 

[Dr.Suave]

Translation: "I abandoned my husband and kids so I could ride the C0ck Carousel. Everything is great except Im jealous that my ex husband is doing much better than me financially. Im looking for Captain Save-A-H0"

 

[SW15]

I watched most of the video. I think she was the one who filed for the divorce. She may have been emotionally abused during the marriage but another time in the video she said it wasn't that bad. It's difficult to say what that marriage was like, but it is likely the marriage was somewhere between subpar and mediocre in quality.

The marriage was 23 years long and the total relationship was 26 years long. This is a woman who started a relationship at 19-20 and ended one at 45-46.

It's difficult to upgrade a man at 45-46 and beyond. She has 3 kids, and it seems at least 2 are 18+. It's likely all 3 are 18+. She also lives in Greenville, South Carolina. Greenville is in between Atlanta and Charlotte, and the metro area around Greenville might be considered a few hundred thousand in population. At best, it's considered a mid-sized metropolitan area. Greenville isn't a place like Atlanta or Dallas where there are a lot of men and a lot of high value men.

Speaking of high value men, it seems like her husband was making somewhere between $200,000 - $1 million per year when they divorced. Even if he was making on the low end of that ($200,000 - $300,000 per year), that's still very good, especially for Greenville, South Carolina. In Dallas, $200,000 - $300,000 is less impressive than Greenville, SC, but still a solid salary.

With adult children, she might not technically be considered a single mom, but she's not a good deal. Additionally, her 18-23 year old children likely require attention and some might have to return to live at home at some point.

In considering everything, she would have been better off staying in that mediocre marriage than trying to exit and upgrade at 45+.

She is above average looking for age but the baggage of 3 teen/adult children and her age doesn't make her much of a prospect, even for a non-marital girlfriend relationship.

She can get some mediocre man who is a downgrade from her ex-husband to commit to her. I could go into more detail on that, but there's no way she can upgrade in her city and with her previous baggage.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

She can get some mediocre man who is a downgrade from her ex-husband to commit to her. I could go into more detail on that, but there's no way she can upgrade in her city and with her previous baggage.

These slightly above-average-looking chicks are being sold a dream. They all have that ONE girlfriend who is "gorgeous" and has a handsome BF who takes her to Vegas and is all over IG with pics, all posed and manicured, but the reality is her gf isn't fabulous or that happy and her bf isn't all that - it's all a facade.

Women lie incessantly to each other about their relationships - they love being the "hot one with all the fun" - even if it's just perception. This chick found out the hard way. She's also not very smart - she should've left dude when the kids where all at home for cash and prizes.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Typically when you are married before age 22, you aren't going to be in a great marriage.

 

[SW15]

She's also not very smart - she should've left dude when the kids where all at home for cash and prizes.

The timing is interesting as she left when at least 2 if not all 3 kids were 18+.

She might not have collected more cash and prizes if she left when the kids were younger. It depends upon what her husband's income was at the time she left. I generally agree with your idea.

It can be difficult when to leave to maximize family court prizes and maximize SMV. There isn't much SMV for a 46-47 year old woman.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Typically when you are married before age 22, you aren't going to be in a great marriage.

Most marriages are average. There are very few "great marriages". in societies where the parents choose the spouse, the couple report greater happiness than those of the west. I personally think it has to deal with lowered expectation and a sense of duty/work instead of finding the next best thing.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Most marriages are average. There are very few "great marriages". in societies where the parents choose the spouse, the couple report greater happiness than those of the west. I personally think it has to deal with lowered expectation and a sense of duty/work instead of finding the next best thing.

Ehh...probably because both have side pieces and both know

 

[SW15]

Most marriages are average. There are very few "great marriages".

Yes, that makes sense by definition.

In the United States, women who married prior to the 1960s-1970s were more accepting of having an average marriage. Women needed average marriages in their lives in the 1800s and up until the 1970s.

I've also seen statistics shown that an average marriage had more instances of sex in it during the 1980s as compared to the 2010s.

The woman in the video is 47 years old. That means she was born in 1976 and her formative years were in the 1980s-1990s. She started dating her now ex-husband in the late 1990s. She was raised as a more modern woman of the 1980s-1990s. She has received a rude awakening in the changes in dating culture since the late 1990s and has also had to deal with the sexual marketplace of 2023 with diminished SMV as compared to the 1997 version of herself. That's not a great combination.

She was probably borderline cute-hot in the late 1990s/early 2000s before her first child was born. She looks decent for 47 today but she is 47. It's not the same.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Ask older couples if they are happy about their marriage, a majority of them will say they are:

If these couples were born in our generation, because of societies pressure to "leave if it doesn't make you happy", they would have divorced a long time ago. Instant gratification does not work well for relationships. This mentality only produces unhappy people in the future.

At the end of the day, I don't care. Everyone gets what they deserve.

 

[SW15]

Ask older couples if they are happy about their marriage, a majority of them will say they are:

If these couples were born in our generation, because of societies pressure to "leave if it doesn't make you happy", they would have divorced a long time ago. Instant gratification does not work well for relationships. This mentality only produces unhappy people in the future.

At the end of the day, I don't care. Everyone gets what they deserve.

This is a video from 2017. The source is LDSLiving, which is associated with the LDS Church. LDS church members are also known as Mormons.

One couple had been married for 51 years and another had been married for 54 years. Both of those relationships started in an era prior to no fault divorce. The Sexual Revolution was in its early stages then.

All of those couples were either older Boomers or maybe even pre-Boomers. In 2017, the oldest Boomers were 71 years old.

Millennial relationships are much different than relationships from the Boomer era or the Silent Generation era. Even Gen X'ers like @Slowhandluke can say his generation did relationships different from older Boomers or Silents.

With Millennials, there's been a lower marriage rate and Millennial marriages are still failing at high rates.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Narcissistic entitled spoiled princess with stupid friends.

She's like my ex-wife, who initiated divorce after sixteen years together with two young children because she 'couldn't be happy' and needed a 'new life', mostly because she was talking to her stupid girlfriends who took her gripes seriously and urged her to divorce me and 'find new happiness' at 39y while coparenting two primary school children.

My ex isn't stupid enough to go on TikTok to vent her frustration, but she's been fighting a burn-out since the divorce because life post-divorce turned out to be a lot tougher than she warranted. She told me that she hadn't been in the 'right frame of mind' around and after the divorce (and, of course, blamed that on me), and she's still 'surviving'.

And while I don't talk about my private life with her, she knows I'm doing much better post-divorce and I'm happy and enjoying life.

 

[MatureDJ]

This is a video from 2017. The source is LDSLiving, which is associated with the LDS Church. LDS church members are also known as Mormons.

One couple had been married for 51 years and another had been married for 54 years. Both of those relationships started in an era prior to no fault divorce. The Sexual Revolution was in its early stages then.

Brigham Young might have been married for 500 years.