"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Forget what you've heard.

B4IFURU18?

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If a girl likes you, you can call her the minute you walk out the bar. You can call her the next day. Hell, you can forgo two days, and call her in two weeks. It simply doesn't matter.

She won't think you're clingy, and she won't all of a sudden lose interest.

Throw away all that two day rule garbage, it's not true.

Thanks and have a nice day!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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KontrollerX

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Its all about what you feel that you can get away with basically.

Two day rule and stuff like that I think is offered up here and in other places simply as advice for guys who really have no clue what they should do no matter how much they think about it.

Kind of training wheels until their ready to think for themselves.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Its all about what you feel that you can get away with basically.

Two day rule and stuff like that I think is offered up here and in other places simply as advice for guys who really have no clue what they should do no matter how much they think about it.

Kind of training wheels until their ready to think for themselves.
true, I have a girlfriend right now and after I got her number I called her the next day. I'm still with her. It is for the clingy guys to keep themselves away from getting clingy.

If your confident and have lots of hobbies or things to do then you can get away with it.

Just be a DJ.

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I always call the next day. Waiting is stupid. I used to wait before and it never really worked. If you like her call her the next day don't play stupid games.
 

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I'm staying with my sister right now, and getting some serious insight. She met a guy last night who started texting her as soon as they left wherever they were, and has been texting her all day. They are out right now. Is she weirded out or turned off? No, she is COMPLETELY head over heels. Just something to think about.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I think you should wait six weeks to call. Tell her you found her number while cleaning out your wallet, you can’t remember where you met. Ask her what she looks like and then ask her if you ****ed. ;)
 

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If a girl is interested she'll STILL be interested after 4/5 days, infact her IL and anticipation of whether you will call or not will be even higher.

However if you call the next day you've a chance to appear desperate and actually lower her IL.

It boils down to slowing everything down, taking your time and not appearing so needy, and most importantly setting the tone for any possible relationship with her. Whats the rush?
 

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Easy. Call her when it's right for you.
 

B4IFURU18?

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Monkey -

Whether or not you're needy will be known within the first 20 minutes of meeting the girl. That's why it doesn't matter when you call.

If you appear calm, cool, and confident, she'll instantly know you're not needy, and if she's interested enough in you, she won't give two ****'s about when you'll call...she'll probably hope for the sooner.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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B4IFURU18? said:
Monkey -

Whether or not you're needy will be known within the first 20 minutes of meeting the girl. That's why it doesn't matter when you call.

If you appear calm, cool, and confident, she'll instantly know you're not needy, and if she's interested enough in you, she won't give two ****'s about when you'll call...she'll probably hope for the sooner.

Which is why you string it out a little to get her hopes up even more.

Actions speak volumes and the action of not calling her as soon as possible, like 99% of other needy guys, demonstrates you are relaxed and cool and increases your value in her eyes. Words can only go so far.

Again it sets the tone for a possible relationship, the tone that you won't be trying to see her five times a week and calling her every ten minutes. Womens biggest complaint about dating is that guys are too needy and too pressuring - something to think about...
 

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Gotta agree with the initial poster. If a girl is really into you it won't matter what you do. In fact the 3 day rule is now so played out that girls expect it and are surprised when you do call fairly soon.
 
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