Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Forget what you've heard.

B4IFURU18?

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If a girl likes you, you can call her the minute you walk out the bar. You can call her the next day. Hell, you can forgo two days, and call her in two weeks. It simply doesn't matter.

She won't think you're clingy, and she won't all of a sudden lose interest.

Throw away all that two day rule garbage, it's not true.

Thanks and have a nice day!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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KontrollerX

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Its all about what you feel that you can get away with basically.

Two day rule and stuff like that I think is offered up here and in other places simply as advice for guys who really have no clue what they should do no matter how much they think about it.

Kind of training wheels until their ready to think for themselves.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Its all about what you feel that you can get away with basically.

Two day rule and stuff like that I think is offered up here and in other places simply as advice for guys who really have no clue what they should do no matter how much they think about it.

Kind of training wheels until their ready to think for themselves.
true, I have a girlfriend right now and after I got her number I called her the next day. I'm still with her. It is for the clingy guys to keep themselves away from getting clingy.

If your confident and have lots of hobbies or things to do then you can get away with it.

Just be a DJ.

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I always call the next day. Waiting is stupid. I used to wait before and it never really worked. If you like her call her the next day don't play stupid games.
 

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I'm staying with my sister right now, and getting some serious insight. She met a guy last night who started texting her as soon as they left wherever they were, and has been texting her all day. They are out right now. Is she weirded out or turned off? No, she is COMPLETELY head over heels. Just something to think about.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think you should wait six weeks to call. Tell her you found her number while cleaning out your wallet, you can’t remember where you met. Ask her what she looks like and then ask her if you ****ed. ;)
 

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If a girl is interested she'll STILL be interested after 4/5 days, infact her IL and anticipation of whether you will call or not will be even higher.

However if you call the next day you've a chance to appear desperate and actually lower her IL.

It boils down to slowing everything down, taking your time and not appearing so needy, and most importantly setting the tone for any possible relationship with her. Whats the rush?
 

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Easy. Call her when it's right for you.
 

B4IFURU18?

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Monkey -

Whether or not you're needy will be known within the first 20 minutes of meeting the girl. That's why it doesn't matter when you call.

If you appear calm, cool, and confident, she'll instantly know you're not needy, and if she's interested enough in you, she won't give two ****'s about when you'll call...she'll probably hope for the sooner.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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B4IFURU18? said:
Monkey -

Whether or not you're needy will be known within the first 20 minutes of meeting the girl. That's why it doesn't matter when you call.

If you appear calm, cool, and confident, she'll instantly know you're not needy, and if she's interested enough in you, she won't give two ****'s about when you'll call...she'll probably hope for the sooner.

Which is why you string it out a little to get her hopes up even more.

Actions speak volumes and the action of not calling her as soon as possible, like 99% of other needy guys, demonstrates you are relaxed and cool and increases your value in her eyes. Words can only go so far.

Again it sets the tone for a possible relationship, the tone that you won't be trying to see her five times a week and calling her every ten minutes. Womens biggest complaint about dating is that guys are too needy and too pressuring - something to think about...
 

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Gotta agree with the initial poster. If a girl is really into you it won't matter what you do. In fact the 3 day rule is now so played out that girls expect it and are surprised when you do call fairly soon.
 
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