"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Example- Your at a bar and a girl smiles at you or give you eye contact.

You can do one of two things. Pointing at her, raise your glass at her, stick your tounge out..etc

Too see what her reaction would be,

If her reaction is positiove (most likely raising the glass) you go in for the move, then take it from there.

If its negative, you know not to move in.


Can you guys think of another idea you can use in a similar situation, or another situation...with examples
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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if its across a bar, look at her directly and get contact, mouth the words..."I love you" slowly, of course your not teling her you love her, but...she will be intrigued, if she is interested, she will probably not know what it was your saying, but if she is interested... she will make it very obvious, corny? cheesy? yes but if it gets you a raised quizical eyebrow and/or a mouthed response? move in
 

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If you've both exchanged a brief eye contact, just give her a semi-smile.

Then, approach her and just say 'hi' 'just thought I'd come by and talk to someone.. I feel could be interesting (smile again)'

No need to complicate or overdress the initial point of interaction.
 

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I've been away for almost 5 years from this forum so I've been reading with some interest today...

Have you guys forgotten about the 3 second rule? It's all that matters.

Chick smiles... within 3 seconds you should already be walking over to her. A simple "Hi" would do.

Trust me guys... she is smiling because she is interested/looking/horny, whatever... you really don't need to try very hard in that situation.
 

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Fash said:
I've been away for almost 5 years from this forum so I've been reading with some interest today...

Have you guys forgotten about the 3 second rule? It's all that matters.

Chick smiles... within 3 seconds you should already be walking over to her. A simple "Hi" would do.

Trust me guys... she is smiling because she is interested/looking/horny, whatever... you really don't need to try very hard in that situation.
I always follow the three second rule bro. I have no problem trying out something new. If she raises her glass too, and smiles, double sign of interest and you have more of a shot.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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betheman said:
if its across a bar, look at her directly and get contact, mouth the words..."I love you" slowly, of course your not teling her you love her, but...she will be intrigued, if she is interested, she will probably not know what it was your saying, but if she is interested... she will make it very obvious, corny? cheesy? yes but if it gets you a raised quizical eyebrow and/or a mouthed response? move in
Probably going to experiment with that one too.
 

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Allurre said:
If you've both exchanged a brief eye contact, just give her a semi-smile.

Then, approach her and just say 'hi' 'just thought I'd come by and talk to someone.. I feel could be interesting (smile again)'

No need to complicate or overdress the initial point of interaction.
I always smile when I walk over, i have a problem with smiling sitting down at a bar unless im already intrigued and/or dancing. Gotta take it one step at a time
 

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Yeah, I do a bunch of cold approaches but definitely go in after a girl smiles at me. For the most part, I'm pretty confident with my looks and become alpha in conversations.

Fash is right though. If she likes what she sees, pretty much paves the road.
 

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neghitzbrah said:
Yeah, I do a bunch of cold approaches but definitely go in after a girl smiles at me. For the most part, I'm pretty confident with my looks and become alpha in conversations.

Fash is right though. If she likes what she sees, pretty much paves the road.
I do too, I have no problem approaching, even random street approaches.

I have another idea. What if you make eye contact for a second but she doesn't smile, so you raise your glass at her and give her a little smile, and she smiles back, then you move it.
 
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