"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Example- Your at a bar and a girl smiles at you or give you eye contact.

You can do one of two things. Pointing at her, raise your glass at her, stick your tounge out..etc

Too see what her reaction would be,

If her reaction is positiove (most likely raising the glass) you go in for the move, then take it from there.

If its negative, you know not to move in.


Can you guys think of another idea you can use in a similar situation, or another situation...with examples
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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if its across a bar, look at her directly and get contact, mouth the words..."I love you" slowly, of course your not teling her you love her, but...she will be intrigued, if she is interested, she will probably not know what it was your saying, but if she is interested... she will make it very obvious, corny? cheesy? yes but if it gets you a raised quizical eyebrow and/or a mouthed response? move in
 

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If you've both exchanged a brief eye contact, just give her a semi-smile.

Then, approach her and just say 'hi' 'just thought I'd come by and talk to someone.. I feel could be interesting (smile again)'

No need to complicate or overdress the initial point of interaction.
 

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I've been away for almost 5 years from this forum so I've been reading with some interest today...

Have you guys forgotten about the 3 second rule? It's all that matters.

Chick smiles... within 3 seconds you should already be walking over to her. A simple "Hi" would do.

Trust me guys... she is smiling because she is interested/looking/horny, whatever... you really don't need to try very hard in that situation.
 

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Fash said:
I've been away for almost 5 years from this forum so I've been reading with some interest today...

Have you guys forgotten about the 3 second rule? It's all that matters.

Chick smiles... within 3 seconds you should already be walking over to her. A simple "Hi" would do.

Trust me guys... she is smiling because she is interested/looking/horny, whatever... you really don't need to try very hard in that situation.
I always follow the three second rule bro. I have no problem trying out something new. If she raises her glass too, and smiles, double sign of interest and you have more of a shot.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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betheman said:
if its across a bar, look at her directly and get contact, mouth the words..."I love you" slowly, of course your not teling her you love her, but...she will be intrigued, if she is interested, she will probably not know what it was your saying, but if she is interested... she will make it very obvious, corny? cheesy? yes but if it gets you a raised quizical eyebrow and/or a mouthed response? move in
Probably going to experiment with that one too.
 

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Allurre said:
If you've both exchanged a brief eye contact, just give her a semi-smile.

Then, approach her and just say 'hi' 'just thought I'd come by and talk to someone.. I feel could be interesting (smile again)'

No need to complicate or overdress the initial point of interaction.
I always smile when I walk over, i have a problem with smiling sitting down at a bar unless im already intrigued and/or dancing. Gotta take it one step at a time
 

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Yeah, I do a bunch of cold approaches but definitely go in after a girl smiles at me. For the most part, I'm pretty confident with my looks and become alpha in conversations.

Fash is right though. If she likes what she sees, pretty much paves the road.
 

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neghitzbrah said:
Yeah, I do a bunch of cold approaches but definitely go in after a girl smiles at me. For the most part, I'm pretty confident with my looks and become alpha in conversations.

Fash is right though. If she likes what she sees, pretty much paves the road.
I do too, I have no problem approaching, even random street approaches.

I have another idea. What if you make eye contact for a second but she doesn't smile, so you raise your glass at her and give her a little smile, and she smiles back, then you move it.
 
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