Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Are you black or hispanic?Flabbergasped? said:I applied to MSU because they offered a full ride and I'm poor. =)
It was purely for "plan C" purposes.
If anyone wants to know my stats, here they are. Remember though, you don't need to have numbers like this to get into top schools:
SAT 2280 (800 M, 730 V, 750 W)
SAT II: 720 Lit, 720 Math IC, 770 Bio
AP Tests: 4- English Language, 5- United States History
State Qualifier in debate, state qualifier in piano
Lots of volunteering hours
President of Chess Club
P.I.M.P.
Yes, the last two might seem contradictory, but I hold it down in my 'hood.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What's with you and antiblack sentiments... you racist? My friend is black and he has a higher GPA than most kids 4.12 he actually studies and takes all AP courses, 2300s in the NEW SATs. He is planning to go to either MIT, Princton, Brown or Harvard.Potbelly said:good luck man. if you succeed, you'll probably get in anywhere.
comic_relief said:Millersville University
GPA is 3.7
accepted to Kutztown University but rejected it for MU
comic_relief
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Wow what upper Ivies denied you? One of my girlfriends are going to Harvard and she has the same track record as you. Well she kinda is like a school freak doing like 10 clubs and she prob had a good interview too.MoolahDiamond said:2310 SAT
35 ACT
780IIC 690USH 680Lit
4.0uw 4.93w
APs: 5,5,5,5,4,4,4,3,3
Denied at upper Ivies and accepted at Cornell, UCs, and USC. I think my SatIIs Killed it for me at the top schools. Heading to UC Berkeley next year. Anyone else going?
wow ur smartMoolahDiamond said:2310 SAT
35 ACT
780IIC 690USH 680Lit
4.0uw 4.93w
APs: 5,5,5,5,4,4,4,3,3
Denied at upper Ivies and accepted at Cornell, UCs, and USC. I think my SatIIs Killed it for me at the top schools. Heading to UC Berkeley next year. Anyone else going?
Congrats on Harvey Mudd. I'm going to Claremont McKenna next year so we will probably run into each other sometime.NYC Dude said:I've decided on Harvey Mudd, so California here I come!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.