For those that sarge solo

[Ricky]

What gets you out the door?

It is so easy to stay in.

I mean I had a rougher year than I'd like. So I need to get some momentum going.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't go out to sarge. Whenever I am out, I sarge...

 

[stevera004]

Originally posted by Ricky
What gets you out the door?

It is so easy to stay in.

I mean I had a rougher year than I'd like. So I need to get some momentum going.

Ricky,

It's true, success breeds success. You may have had a tough year, but face it: no one (save you) really gives a sh!t.

As to your question, I would start with online dating. Go only for the super-fatties and the old (late 30's) divorcees with multiple kids. These are easy pickings and are there to build up your confidence.

Start small, but keep moving.

The line from Shawshank Redemption is playing in my head right now (sorry, I get sentimental when I'm buzzed ), "get busy living or get busy dying"). Ruminate on that for a bit.

stevera004 out,

 

[Marlimus]

psyche yourself up np matter what. Play music in your car or on your stereo that makes you feel like a pimp. Smile. You have to FEEL cool and expect success. You have to amp yourself, the way footballers do before a game.

 

[Ricky]

This is true. You have to get feeling good to get it done.

The mind can keep you down if you dwell on the negatives.

 

[iveyleeger]

Agreed. I was just thinking today how important the "warm up" is before you go out. For me, I have to always do the easy approaches, the waitresses, clerks, building people, etc. to get things flowing. When I just try to go straight to a CA without that I chicken out, or flub it.

 

[DoubleA]

Ricky

Ricky,

I tell you what gets me going...

1. I'm SINGLE. That's it, I'm SINGLE. I don't have anyone in my life so I feel that I need to get out meet a lady or two or three.

2. I refuse to settle. I refuse to accept the way things are in my life. I was born to shake the frame of things and what better way than change the things I can change.

3. I refuse to let those women who have wronged me as a MAN, feel they have left standing here WAITING FOR THEM because I had foolish feelings for them. Fvck No. I know out there, there is somebody for me. Not some chick who wants back in, and has a kid. Or coming out some doomed marriage.

4. I am NOBODY's Second Option. I come first. Me. Chicks who treated me like sh1t there's always someone who can treat you better.

5. The vidogame collection has grown. It's making me feel like a
straight-up nerd.

6. I DESERVE BETTER.

7. I love SEX. I love WOMEN. Neither I'm currently getting.

8. I pity those who try and stop me. They need to mind their business..crab azzes. They're eating nice from the table of life. While it continues to serve me scraps. Fvck that. I tried to appreciate, but I deserve more.

9. The look on clowns's faces when their at the bar talking to their girl and she's glacing at me.

10. I do it because new experiences help me to put the past behind me. A new face and different name, eases past regret.
Only to have me do my part in providing the possibility of a brighter day and someone worthy of what I have to give.

Boys, remember. "You can sh1t in one hand. And place a wish in the other. Tell me, which one will happen first??"

My real name is Aaron. I refuse to lose.

 

[josekortez]

Rollo, you sound like me, especially the enormously large vid game collection...

 

[Inc. ©]

How do you sarge solo is my question? I mean, where do you go?

 

[hithard]

When I had to hit the pubs solo or with just one other friend.When I first entered. I would look for another group of two or three guys that were looking bored.Joke around with them and use them as a springboard.
So long as they joke around with you and dont act neg.Then at least you have a fallback position.If any of them are keen you got yourself a wingman.
Try to remember names joke around and be a good guy with them.If they see you hitting the girls up.Chances are they will want you around so they pick up scraps.Give em the fatties.Do this everywhere you go and you will start to set yourself up.
Make sure they aint roughies though and are at least up to your dress standard as girls will judge you on the group as well.

 

[Cesare Cardinali]

Ricky,

You need to think of this like playing a sport. You're not a single guy looking for company. You are a guy going out to play his favorite sport; which just so happens be be going out and creating great interactions with women. You are not going out to pick up a girlfriend and change your life, you are just having fun.

Think of it like being a lone pool player who keeps racking them up and trying new things. You've got to love the game.

Cesare Cardinali

 

[Ricky]

Great posts guys. I'm inspired (but heading to bed). I need a few more good nights of sleep to cure the burnout.

ANd hit the gym tomorrow!

 

[allan976]

Geriatric Sarges

Damm Ricky,

You sounded like me earlier this summer. Us older guys need to take especial care of ourselves (is anyone going to slam me on word usage lol). Our metabolism slows down, strength decreases, gains in the gym come more slowly and require greater recuperation time.

I tried going out two nights in a row (Friday/Saturday) just a couple of weeks back, and this is during a time when I'm working part time mind you, and I was pretty much exhausted. I'm still not sure if I've recovered!

The bottom line is, you MUST recuperate properly. Anything that requires physical or emotional exertion, I try to schedule every other day (night sarges, the gym in particular).

Also, if you have a choice between going solo or winging with a newb, I say go it alone. If you must go with someone specifically for the sake of sarging, split up immediately once you get inside the venue. Do not cling to them, or let them enter your sets. You can pick up some very bad habits from newb wings. You have been warned! Good luck, post a FR.