"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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For those of you with BPD issues..

SgtSplacker

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Was listening to the 48 laws of power and one of the laws really applies to BPD women in particular. Enjoy..

Just walk away...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Just a quick question: is BPD borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder?
 

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Borderline Personality Disorder
 

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This is spot on. Toxic women will drag you down into Hell no matter how successful or confident you are... Once you're infected, start cleaning up their never ending messes, defending/rationalizing their actions to other people, and forgiving them for abuse or infidelity... you are screwed and its gonna take all your might to pull yourself out of the black hole.

Thanks Sarge. I'm going to listen to more of these...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've been listening to it. I like the teachings, but they are framed in this underhanded, devious style I don't really agree with. You just have to remove the bad intention and take the teachings to heart.

I do believe that as a human being I have the power to do things with civility and that I don't have to destroy everything around me just to survive.
 

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If you're already successful and confident that type of chick will already be waaaaaay outside your radar. Although it's wise to read up on what makes them tick, especially gaining power by appealing to their deepest hidden fears and insecurities. They all subconsciously fear abandonment (don't bother asking them). They are needy, and if you are too then you will attract them.

The problem is to know for damn sure their reaction patterns. You walk and they will blame you for pretty much everything, drag you down, get angry at you, play on your sympathy, threaten you and in some cases threaten to kill themselves. Despite all this they don't have a spine and WILL give in if you stand your ground and serve them silence for long enough, that's when you regain power. Don't abuse them with this though, just don't be responsible to promote their dramatic life.

If you get any of these reactions, walk and never look back. I've got a massive load of experience dealing with this since my mom has BPD, it's great training for being indifferent.
 
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