"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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For those of you with BPD issues..

SgtSplacker

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Was listening to the 48 laws of power and one of the laws really applies to BPD women in particular. Enjoy..

Just walk away...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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Just a quick question: is BPD borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder?
 

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Borderline Personality Disorder
 

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This is spot on. Toxic women will drag you down into Hell no matter how successful or confident you are... Once you're infected, start cleaning up their never ending messes, defending/rationalizing their actions to other people, and forgiving them for abuse or infidelity... you are screwed and its gonna take all your might to pull yourself out of the black hole.

Thanks Sarge. I'm going to listen to more of these...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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I've been listening to it. I like the teachings, but they are framed in this underhanded, devious style I don't really agree with. You just have to remove the bad intention and take the teachings to heart.

I do believe that as a human being I have the power to do things with civility and that I don't have to destroy everything around me just to survive.
 

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If you're already successful and confident that type of chick will already be waaaaaay outside your radar. Although it's wise to read up on what makes them tick, especially gaining power by appealing to their deepest hidden fears and insecurities. They all subconsciously fear abandonment (don't bother asking them). They are needy, and if you are too then you will attract them.

The problem is to know for damn sure their reaction patterns. You walk and they will blame you for pretty much everything, drag you down, get angry at you, play on your sympathy, threaten you and in some cases threaten to kill themselves. Despite all this they don't have a spine and WILL give in if you stand your ground and serve them silence for long enough, that's when you regain power. Don't abuse them with this though, just don't be responsible to promote their dramatic life.

If you get any of these reactions, walk and never look back. I've got a massive load of experience dealing with this since my mom has BPD, it's great training for being indifferent.
 
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