"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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... here's something that will make you feel justified in your opinions. Although this is from Craigslist which I don't feel depicts true online dating (same with MySpace), I think posts like these just make guys really bitter.

"I'll know it when I see it." - 37
* NOTE: It's her "P.S." that ticks off the guy that responds with this message:

Re: "I'll know it when I see it." - 37
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I don't get it, it doesn't seem too bad. So she's a little nerdy (what's Rubennesque?), and she's 37 years old. Everyone has a few flaws.

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Online dating is pointless. Using online as a supplement to meeting new girls for offline encounters is beneficial.
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I don't get it, it doesn't seem too bad. So she's a little nerdy (what's Rubennesque?), and she's 37 years old. Everyone has a few flaws.

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I can still get to the second post.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I can still get to the second post.
Doesn't work for me either.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
(what's Rubennesque?)
******** for fat.

Anyway as for her ad I dont really see anything out of the ordinary, seems just like your regular Western chick ad to me. She "thinks" she wants the supplicating guy who will bend over backwards for her and fullfill her overblown material wants, hell the b!tch even mentions wanting to be taken to "independantly owned"(expensive) restaurants in 2 seperate paragraphs. etc etc yada yada *Yawn*

Has nothing to do with us here does it?
 

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Originally posted by diablo
Online dating is pointless. Using online as a supplement to meeting new girls for offline encounters is beneficial.
I thought that was the whole point of online dating sites. Isn't it?

You post a profile, send a message to someone else who interests you, hopefully you "click," and then you meet in real life.

What else can you do with online dating?


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Originally posted by diablo
Doesn't work for me either.

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CRAP! It must be in my cache. It was just a pic of a REALLY rubenesque woman. I couldn't count the rolls of fat there was so many... Anyway, I guess you had to have been there....
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
It was just a pic of a REALLY rubenesque woman. I couldn't count the rolls of fat there was so many...
FRom my personal personals experience I can offer a simple tip on how to figure out her weight without a pic.
If her emails is oddly long from the very begining, much longer than yours, it is a sure sign she might be really overweight.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by al77
FRom my personal personals experience I can offer a simple tip on how to figure out her weight without a pic.
If her emails is oddly long from the very begining, much longer than yours, it is a sure sign she might be really overweight.
I realize it in their profile if they describe their hair/eye color and height without mentioning their weight or body type. Couple that with the fact that they won't post their picture and I see red flags and flashing red lights.
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I don't get it, it doesn't seem too bad. So she's a little nerdy (what's Rubennesque?), and she's 37 years old. Everyone has a few flaws.

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Rubennesque means she's fat.
 

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Online dating....

I've pulled hot chicks off the Internet.

The thing is you just have to move on if the chic doesn't play into your hand easily. Do not waste too much time on it. Go in, fire off a billion spams, and wait for replies. Filter the replies to only the ones that give up #s quick. Call but if you cant get a date, bail. Always see pics of her BODY before driving more than 15-20 min to meet a chic. Lie and say you live further away so you have an excuse to stay the night. You can always say you moved closer if things get serious.

It's not perfect, it's not a crutch for approaching women in person, but it can provide a few extra chics. Worst part is even in big cities, any given site will cease to provide much results after a while.
 

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Originally posted by Abbott
What else can you do with online dating?
Some people - such as a former roommate I had while living on campus - had "internet girlfriends" that they've never seen, probably never will see... and were happy with that. It's worse than pathetic.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some people - such as a former roommate I had while living on campus - had "internet girlfriends" that they've never seen, probably never will see... and were happy with that. It's worse than pathetic.
Also known as pulling a Kip.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by diablo
Some people - such as a former roommate I had while living on campus - had "internet girlfriends" that they've never seen, probably never will see... and were happy with that. It's worse than pathetic.
It's guys like him that gives Internet Dating a bad name... :cuss:
 
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