"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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For those of you who do day cold approaches

Shivastorm_88

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What is your typical success (#-close ratio) rate? And what type of approach do you usually go for, very direct (simply say hi) or sort of situational?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DanelMadr

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I don't do day game cold approaches as a hobby and I spend not so much time in the city so the numbers game (there will be eventually a success) does not apply to me and my statistic is not based on hundreds, more like tens.

Basically form approaches I did, I have like max of 2 in 10 success (at least bedding her).
The scenario is like this:
I see a girl.
I do some smart remark.
In most cases she acknowledges me but no further conversation, just acknowledgement.
You can see on her that her IL is breaking through the ceiling.
Nervous, curling hair, avoiding eye contact, smiling, red in face.
I ask for a date now if situation permits. It is declined. I persist, calling her coward, heh. She resists. It gets a little awkward so I extract her number.
I call later. In the evening, next day or in three days.
No one answers. So I text. And the answer is...'You have a wrong number,pal.'

There is another scenario:
Where girls even go on a date but I see no clear IOI and basically I have this feeling they view me with contempt like a snob treating a factory worker. You can see that they change their minds but contempt is changed to wonder not higher IL. Meanwhile their attitude makes my IL go south and the adventure turns in to power struggle. Where I end up with contempt for them.

In some rare cases it turns out slightly better but no breeze walk. Best when I meet her accidentally again and end up talking like friends. Then I am able to seduce her.

The best results I got in clubs/bars acting like this stone cold arrogant pr1ck. Best results in F@ck Close that is. But let me tell you the sex was bad, even weird. Mostly they wanted to get serviced and they gave back as least as possible. I don't do that anymore.

I am pretty attractive guy, so maybe thats why there are so many extremes. Extremely High IL vs Contempt on first sight, Paralyzing Intimidation vs Sadistic Sexual aggression.

But it is individual thing, don't get repelled by my lack of success. For a city guy, day game cold approach is the only reasonable chance.
When I have enough I will move to small town. Girls have a chance to observe you for longer.
 

stayfly

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^^^^^

that method sounds horrible man. you'd benifit by improving it.

on average a number should be had in every 3 to 5 interactions depending on your skill and her availability. direct and indirect are equally effective.
 

DanelMadr

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stayfly said:
^^^^^

that method sounds horrible man. you'd benifit by improving it.

on average a number should be had in every 3 to 5 interactions depending on your skill and her availability. direct and indirect are equally effective.
It is not a method,lol. Thats just me *ucking up. Badly bruised but still here and ready for some more. Even when a girl is wet for you, she can still shoot you down for god knows what. Prepare for the worst....even hotshots crash and burn. Thats my message.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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