"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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For those of you who are hot heads especially if someone tries to AMOG you how do you handle this without it turning into a punch up?

pete101

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For those of you who are hot heads like me how do you handle being AMOG'd in a group setting be it at a group dinner with gf's/friends and 1 guy wants to show he is the big man or tries to test you making derogatory remarks or comments belittling you in a jokey manner to assert his authority and if you fire back it gets heated quickly how do you handle these types of situations?

Another scenario if you are seeing a girl at the beginning and there is a rival is who is trying to undermine you and using the fact you are a hot head to his advantage trying to get you to act out so you self implode how do you deal with these scenarios?

Do you just try to stay calm remove yourself from such situations if possible and revisit it later?

Im still reeling from earlier indiscretions with time wasting women it is affecting my interactions with any new ones as they can tell something is up and i am feeling jaded and bitter so even i can see i need to vacate until i have calmed down and in a better mood.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Dutchman is spot on. Do not be a hot head. Hot headed people are easily manipulated and controlled by others (and made to look foolish).

Self control is the mark of a mature individual. That is grown up 101.

Grown up 202 is amused mastery where you can actually find humor in the idiots around you.

You arent there yet. Work on Grown Up 101.
 
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