"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
For those of you still worried about age
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
legolas
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Yeah I saw that story too. Interesting match she's 23 he's 40 and did you look at his pic? The guy looks 23 
http://channels.netscape.com/sports/bigpic.jsp?photoid=20050529NY169
Look at those legs!!!! http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/multimedia/photo_gallery/2005/05/26/danica.patrick/content.8.html
http://channels.netscape.com/sports/bigpic.jsp?photoid=20050529NY169Look at those legs!!!! http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/multimedia/photo_gallery/2005/05/26/danica.patrick/content.8.html
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Thats just wonderful. Just like Big George said "Over 40 aint over"....you can do it all, just need to hit the gym, and be prepared for anything.
A few years ago my dad told me the same thing. He said your 30's is the best time of your life. He didn't elaborate, but now that I am in my mid 30's I can say he was right on target.Originally posted by BGMan
One good thing about being a man is that we stay attractive longer. My old man (who married at 38) told me a couple of years ago, "Things will only get better."
BGMan
Why do you think women are so quick to try to handcuff you? Because their value in the mating game has a limited shelf life. If you are a guy you can be pimpin' well into old age if that's what you want to do. Look at Hugh....
Why would I care if I am getting older? I have a decent net worth, I basically don't have to work anymore, nice car, new townhouse a few blocks from the downtown nightlife, younger women saying I still look good, I know MY stock isn't going down anytime soon! It's GREAT to be a MATURE man.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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I'm 25, and I got no beef with older guys hitting on younger girls. Just don't be the "i'm obvious trying to be hip, young and single" type. The middle aged recently divorced (usually AFC because their marriage didn't work) guys are the worst, it's like they religiously use every tip there is in Men's Health and Maxim. Don't do this...
Speedo I do agree there are some guys that do that, but I'm sure the bigger problem is their incongruency. They have no game so try to make it up by looking younger.
I'm 32 now, but when I was 25 like you, an older guy at work was already convincing me I was too old for college girls. Bad advice is abound.
I'm 32 now, but when I was 25 like you, an older guy at work was already convincing me I was too old for college girls. Bad advice is abound.
An older guy has alot to offer, but the key often is how good they look at whatever their age is. Compare a guy age 40 that spent his younger years on the beach, drinking, etc. who now has leather skin and a gut and probably medical issues too with one who didn't do that and kept in shape. Those are the guys that the 20 somethings are most interested in.