Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
If you're unsure, why get married? What will getting married offer you personally as a man that you couldn't achieve through a comitted relationship without marriage?ready123 said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
For those in LTRs... when was the time to move in together?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
In whose house, what happens if it doesn't work? Who leaves? Who has to start over at square one?Nightwing said:
This is why I say do the long vacations first. At least each has mutually neutral corners to go to after the fight.
ready123
Master Don Juan
that's a good point. never thought of it like thatFrancisco d'Anconia said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
ready123
Master Don Juan
thanks brothaFrancisco d'Anconia said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
My Name is Nobody
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I made a big mistake a few years ago and let my girlfriend move in. I didn't even ask her to live with me. She just gradually kept bringing more and more of her stuff to my place and before I could think she was living with me. That was a big mistake and it took forever to get rid of her.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
:cuss: I hate it when that sh1t happens! Get up on a Monday morning, brush your teeth and notice right before the spit that you are brushing your teeth with someone else's toothbrush then you shoot Crest Wintergreen out your nose! :cuss: And don't get me started when another woman finds someone else's toothbrush and you have to make up a excuse...My Name is Nobody said:
"What? A pink toothbrush? Ohhh...Uhhh yeah, that's mine... I had run out of toothbrushes and I went to the store, right; and all they had were toothbrushes in those two-packs, right; but the only kind that they had left was the one with a pink and a blue one, right; so I had to but that one because I hadn't brushed my teeth in about a week, right; so since I am a man I used the blue one first, right; but somehow I misplaced that one, right; so I had to start using the pink one, right; but I didn't want to use it because I'm a man, right; plus I wanted to save that one for you, right; but I couldn't because I know that you like fresh breath, right; so that's why there's a pink toothbrush..."
"Huh? There's a green one on the sink too? Ummm, That's the one I use for the dog.
Oh come on, don't tell me I'm the only one who's had to use that excuse..."Huh? There's a green one on the sink too? Ummm, That's the one I use for the dog.