There's an article sosuave article on the main site titled Why Very Intelligent Men Fail with Women that says smart guys always seek more information when facing problems and that's not the answer.
I think knowledge IS the answer. True knowledge, not dating-tips sites. In this media age some people like myself get dragged on bleak paths. I was fed bullshyt by TV, cinema and whatnot only to be some under-achiever content with his above-average education, culture and salary. And all this time until recently I was torn by my shyness and low self-esteem.
I seeked answers but I was not looking the right way. I realized that I'm insecure and socially unskilled because I'm living in a world that I don't understand. So I needed to understand basic things, like why do we exist, what's the universe and what's life. For some this is already answered, I know, while some don't think they'll get the answer in their lifetime. The problem with many people of our generation is that they don't inquire these things anymore (I didn't, so there sure must be many others like me and it's for them that I'm posting)
So I started reading - philosophy, the great classics, quantum physics. I could see the results even in my street walk. I'm fairly well built and was walking normal in my yard... But on the street I was a mass of insecurity - walking funny, stiff, tripping, the women giggled and the men stared me down... Now I walk normal, I'm aware about my surroundings, the people, now it's me doing the "research" on them. This was just an example of my increased self-esteem, also I interact better with women, I'm not "there" yet, but I can feel the day coming.
So if you're a shy guy "not getting it" then hit the library with the biggest questions you can think of...
If you don't know where to start, I suggest the Reading List of any big university, like this one or maybe this onehttp://www.stjohnscollege.edu/asp/main.aspx?page=1302 http://www.thomasaquinas.edu/curriculum/
I think knowledge IS the answer. True knowledge, not dating-tips sites. In this media age some people like myself get dragged on bleak paths. I was fed bullshyt by TV, cinema and whatnot only to be some under-achiever content with his above-average education, culture and salary. And all this time until recently I was torn by my shyness and low self-esteem.
I seeked answers but I was not looking the right way. I realized that I'm insecure and socially unskilled because I'm living in a world that I don't understand. So I needed to understand basic things, like why do we exist, what's the universe and what's life. For some this is already answered, I know, while some don't think they'll get the answer in their lifetime. The problem with many people of our generation is that they don't inquire these things anymore (I didn't, so there sure must be many others like me and it's for them that I'm posting)
So I started reading - philosophy, the great classics, quantum physics. I could see the results even in my street walk. I'm fairly well built and was walking normal in my yard... But on the street I was a mass of insecurity - walking funny, stiff, tripping, the women giggled and the men stared me down... Now I walk normal, I'm aware about my surroundings, the people, now it's me doing the "research" on them. This was just an example of my increased self-esteem, also I interact better with women, I'm not "there" yet, but I can feel the day coming.
So if you're a shy guy "not getting it" then hit the library with the biggest questions you can think of...
If you don't know where to start, I suggest the Reading List of any big university, like this one or maybe this onehttp://www.stjohnscollege.edu/asp/main.aspx?page=1302 http://www.thomasaquinas.edu/curriculum/
