For the new timers-Being rejected isn't so bad.

[MrConfidence]

It's not an excuse, it's a question. Or I suppose there is some crazy way I can approach her during lunch eh?

 

[Mr_rogers]

It's not an excuse, it's a question. Or I suppose there is some crazy way I can approach her during lunch eh?

*shakes his head* Dude... this is exactly the same as every other post you've made for the last 3 months, at the very least.

Every single time someone gives you advice, you either figure it's impossible to do what they suggest, or you endlessly question it until no one cares anymore. You already have a thread going. Don't stink this one up, too.

 

[MrConfidence]

*shakes his head* Dude... this is exactly the same as every other post you've made for the last 3 months, at the very least.

Every single time someone gives you advice, you either figure it's impossible to do what they suggest, or you endlessly question it until no one cares anymore. You already have a thread going. Don't stink this one up, too.

Well you guys are no help. What do I need your advice for though? I can always figure it out on my own. Can't be too hard.

mods , how come he hasnt been banned?

And you care because? I think you're actually amused by threads if you care so much that I post. Then again, maybe you just hang out here a "little" too much.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Well you guys are no help. What do I need your advice for though? I can always figure it out on my own. Can't be too hard.

Yea, really? Then why are you still here asking the same questions? Because you cant do sh*t on your own.

 

[Lust]

Yea, really? Then why are you still here asking the same questions? Because you cant do sh*t on your own.

Let's not get hostile guys.

But seriously.

You gotta stop making excuses up for yourself.

If i ever miss an opportunity to approach someone, i feel like sh*t. I get angry at myself.

It's different when the chance has gone you by. Since you still see her at school, in your mind, you see it as the chance is still there, and you have time to put it off. But if she was to leave for another school tonight, you'd be spewing tommorow.

 

[MrConfidence]

Yea, really? Then why are you still here asking the same questions? Because you cant do sh*t on your own.

Temper, temper.

Let's not get hostile guys.

But seriously.

You gotta stop making excuses up for yourself.

If i ever miss an opportunity to approach someone, i feel like sh*t. I get angry at myself.

It's different when the chance has gone you by. Since you still see her at school, in your mind, you see it as the chance is still there, and you have time to put it off. But if she was to leave for another school tonight, you'd be spewing tommorow.

I'm not making excuses for myself, I'm waiting until I can get her alone. Besides if she was going to leave I could always go for another girl, no big deal.

 

[Mr_rogers]

Temper, temper.


I'm not making excuses for myself, I'm waiting until I can get her alone. Besides if she was going to leave I could always go for another girl, no big deal.

Man, get the hell out of this person's thread. Every time you post somewhere, it turns into a ****fest. Do everyone a favour and stick to your own threads. You have no useful advice to offer, and all you do is make everyone miserable.

 

[MrConfidence]

Man, get the hell out of this person's thread. Every time you post somewhere, it turns into a ****fest. Do everyone a favour and stick to your own threads. You have no useful advice to offer, and all you do is make everyone miserable.

Don't blame it on me, you just have to simply learn to ignore my post. No one's forcing you to reply, you just have a problem ignoring my post dude. Go ahead reply, you're just going to prove my point. Plus...

I don't know why I'm so afraid to approach. There's a girl named Marissa who I've talked to a couple of times, but just can't seem to approach. Oh wait, I do know, I don't know how to open. Don't know if I should compliment her on her new glasses, or neg hit her or better yet say something like "Hey, I remember you from marching band!". I have got to figure out a way to break the ice with this girl, and take her off the damn pedestal. The truth is is that I'm afraid of going up to her, saying something to her, and getting rejected.

Notice how I never asked for advice, I was just rambling. You guys have got to learn to ignore me when I do that. I'm not saying I'm not wrong to an extent, but when you guys reply to my post you've got to ask yourself "Is replying to his post going to do the topic any good?". If not, then just ignore it. It's certainly not doing this topic any good.

 

[Lust]

Don't blame it on me, you just have to simply learn to ignore my post. No one's forcing you to reply, you just have a problem ignoring my post dude. Go ahead reply, you're just going to prove my point. Plus...


Notice how I never asked for advice, I was just rambling. You guys have got to learn to ignore me when I do that. I'm not saying I'm not wrong to an extent, but when you guys reply to my post you've got to ask yourself "Is replying to his post going to do the topic any good?". If not, then just ignore it. It's certainly not doing this topic any good.

Um, so you're saying it's our fault for "not ignoring"?

I think it'd be smarter if you stopped rambling then.

I think humans have this certain circuitary, when they have good advice, they are willing to give it, maybe it makes them feel superior, maybe it makes them feel important, i don't know. But im here replying now, not cause i had to, cause i just.......did?

 

[Mr_rogers]

Don't blame it on me, you just have to simply learn to ignore my post. No one's forcing you to reply, you just have a problem ignoring my post dude. Go ahead reply, you're just going to prove my point. Plus...

That wasn't my point, retard. My point was that by rambling on in here, you're ****ing up the original topic and getting yet more attention, more time and taking up more energy, and you do it thanklessly. On top of that, you don't actually take anyone's advice. You argue with them until the entire board has to put it to you then finally relent, agreeing that the advice is good, but still not taking it.

All I asked was that you keep your personal **** in one thread at a time. This guy was giving everyone a tip, not asking to hear your sad story.

Notice how I never asked for advice, I was just rambling. You guys have got to learn to ignore me when I do that. I'm not saying I'm not wrong to an extent, but when you guys reply to my post you've got to ask yourself "Is replying to his post going to do the topic any good?". If not, then just ignore it. It's certainly not doing this topic any good.

Why should we have to? Post on topic or don't post. Christ.

And with that, I'm done, because I'm not helping the situation. *steps out*

 

[art of]

I think you all need to settle down. If confidence wont take your advice (which i agreed with by the way) then let him continue being an ignorant AFC. Confidence, they are overreacting a bit but you kinda tempt them into it with your responses. If you want to stop people from flaming on you then dont respond to their negative aspects. Please do not respond to this part of my post in any way, just think about it and PM me if you have a problem with what i said.
(sighs)

Now back to the original topic.
In the past I let rejection sink in and sting me. I would go home and question myself and come to the conclusion that life just wasn't fair. I would look in the miror and think to myself "if I have so much to offer then why am I still single?" The answer was the way I looked at rejection. To me it was an ugly beast to be feared. It was a reminder of my flaws, and the shere idea of it made me sink into a poorly spoken and less funny version of myself.
Eventually, I got sick of this low. The awkwardness of admiting my flaws to some sort of mentor in real life didn't sound very appealing. So I reached out toward the internet for guidance and stumbled my way here.

Now I look at things differently. I try to apply the things I've learned here and build my confidence. I can go to a party and converse with any girl with ease. My failures taught me a lot about reading body language. I find it extremely useful when trying to decide whether a number close is appropriate or not. From time to time I misjudge this and get rejected, but the truth is it doesn't hurt.

It's all in the eye of the beholder. If you go in with the hidden feeling that if you get rejected you will become less of a man, then its true. I ask you to go in there with the knowledge that if you get rejected it will make you more of a man; because, you will gain more knowledge, skill, and insite.