Ok guys, this is not for you young guys who can get wood at any time. This is for us who have alot of years on the clock. So for the first time in my lengthy existence I am going through a period of performance issues. And let me share this, it is rather devastating. Been with this woman a number of years. She is 20 years younger...and a redhead. Lately she is ready, but alas it is hit and miss for me. Tried generic little blue pill. Gave me a hell of a headache and not much else. Then tried a Cialis sample. Worked great in AM, but nothing the night before. So my question to the group, besides an implant (Where is Richard the frog when you need him!), has anyone had experience with anything else that can reliably give erection on demand? She has been cool about it but this sh*t needs to stop...or start I guess. And no I am not asking for a friend. Thanks in advance.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
For the more, um, Mature among us...the dreaded ED!
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
I dont think it shouldve been discussed with the woman.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Are you sure the blue pill you tried was the real thing? Sildenafil, I believe it is. You can experiment with a higher dose, and it helps to not have food in your stomach, especially fatty food. Cialis comes in many pill dose sizes. Some say 5 mg daily is the rigjt dose for a guy getting regular sex. Levitra is the 3rd ed drug. I haven't tried that one.
Not sure what is going on frankly. I am wondering out loud if perhaps this relationship has an expiration date. And that is screwing with my little and big heads...I have an appointment with Urology but not till months end. I am finding myself coming up with excuses not to be embarrassed again. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I worry about performance and sure as h*'ll the worry becomes reality. Anyone have experience with injections or such?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BeExcellent
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My guy is nearly 50 and has ED sporadically. It frustrates him quite a bit but he's open with me about it. Get your T levels checked. My BF gets T injections every couple of weeks and it is a noticeable uptick in libido (as well as energy and metabolism.)
Being a great lover is much more than your hard on. Learn some erotic arts. If you can please her even when your body won't cooperate you'll relax & that can help your own blood flow organically.
Men obcess about performance. Stop it. If you focus too much on performance you will end up with a self defeating self fulfilling prophesy. Not good.
Focus instead on being fully present, on enjoying your lover and using the erotic potential of your mind and whole body.
See a doc, get your levels checked, try some meds and so on...but don't berate yourself. A woman who is into you is going to be understanding & enjoy you anyway.
Being a great lover is much more than your hard on. Learn some erotic arts. If you can please her even when your body won't cooperate you'll relax & that can help your own blood flow organically.
Men obcess about performance. Stop it. If you focus too much on performance you will end up with a self defeating self fulfilling prophesy. Not good.
Focus instead on being fully present, on enjoying your lover and using the erotic potential of your mind and whole body.
See a doc, get your levels checked, try some meds and so on...but don't berate yourself. A woman who is into you is going to be understanding & enjoy you anyway.
Augustus_McCrae
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You may already know this but:
If you’re overweight, dropping some pounds will help
If you’re not lifting, start
Take zinc
Steak, eggs, and other kinds of foods can help
And yes, get your T levels checked. Testosterone replacement is something that every man needs to consider as they get older. I’ve held off on it so far because I’ve stayed fairly lean my whole life ( but at 60 that gets more difficult each day). However, there are inevitable changes that occur as you get older that T replacement can definitely help with.
And... if she doesn’t have a rabbit, get one and use it on her. You’ll both enjoy it.
-Augustus-
Thanks for the replies. I have more of a problem with performance than she does....for now. I am 6-4 225 so not skinny but not grossly over weight. I lift 3 days a week. The mention of self fulfilling prophecy rings very true. Not sure what a "rabbit" is actually. Thanks again for your insights. Appreciated.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Rabbit is a small cl1toral vibrator.
Heres the thing. If we think about ED or possible issues it begets the issue. Causing it to occur.
What ive done in my life if it popped up was to deal with a woman whose into me whose unaware of that issue. Things work fine.
C0ck strength is another reason you should neber tolerate being treated less than a king in your relationship. If your female "bytches you out" your boner will be negatively effected.
Its like complaining about women, complaining about hypergamy, complaining about society keeps us stuck in that perspective.
The guys doing well probably arent even aware this exists.
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ED is an early symptom of diabetes and possible heart disease.
You will need to do some shifts in your diet. I recommend KETO.
Until you start waking up in the morning with an erection or partial erection you need some work. I recommend weights and work your way up to sprints. Take your time. It’s a marathon.
There are also some shakes that do work but not well without eliminating grains. ED is a modern ailment.
You will need to do some shifts in your diet. I recommend KETO.
Until you start waking up in the morning with an erection or partial erection you need some work. I recommend weights and work your way up to sprints. Take your time. It’s a marathon.
There are also some shakes that do work but not well without eliminating grains. ED is a modern ailment.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
My opinion is ED is accelerated in the last 10-20 years due to a degredarion of masculinity and decrease in testosterone. I believe most of it is mental and due to societal re programming. Men dont feel like men.
R
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There is some truth in that a docile lifestyle does accelerate it. Your muscles remain dormant and not stimulated. Not going on adventures such as hunting, racing, shooting, archery etc.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Even if your hunting and fishing and adventures if your forced to interact with a more masculine woman who controls sex your manhood wont stand as high.
Yes, it’s why many men also gain weight with age unless they stay active to a certain degree…
I do lift....heavy. It will be enlightening to see what urology has to say. Pretty much eat clean, with low carbs, high protein. Never smoked, no drugs, no alcohol...Do use Porpecia on a regular basis and know that can be problematic. Wonder if non steroidal anti inflammatory meds have an effect...like Alieve and such?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Do you do cardio? Lifting for power raise stress in body. Stress is not good for boners. Cardio is good for your blood circulation producing a veiny and harder boner. Cardio also consumes the stress in your system. 20-30 minutes of cardio at least 3 days a week can keep you good.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.