"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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For the men: honestly, if you could never be caught, would you cheat on your gf?

The_Reaper

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Say you're out of town, or away in some other state, whatever, and it's offered on a plate. Some girl will suck you off or you could go back to her place to have sex and never see her again afterwards. Would you do it? Would you fight the temptation - or is your relationship so strong there would there be no temptation at all (liar)...

If so, how would you feel about it - guilt, remorse, indifference?

I'm wondering also if you will post honest replies...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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persiangino

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Considering most girls in our society today cheat on their 'boyfriends' a real man would be stupid to have a 'girlfriend' to begin with. So the answer is yes, pimp as many hoes as possible.
 

Fred Da Head

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Contrary to Mr. Cynical there, I think it would be hypocritical to criticize women for something, and then do the very same thing. But maybe he's channeling Tyler Durden (the PUA, not the character).

I think it's wrong to tell a woman you'll be seeing her exclusively and then go and screw around. That being said, the second she's unfaithful, she gets the boot. The solution might be to be open and have her be aware that you'll be seeing other women; MLTRs probably fit the bill.

If I was in an exclusive LTR and I cheated on the lady, I'd probably feel guilt, but not remorse. Guilt because, as I said, it's wrong to tell someone you'll be in an exclusive relationship and then go and cheat on them; no remorse because if I do it, it's something that I want to do.

Heh, guess I'm still "stuck" with the mindset that pervaded this site before the new guys all got here...
 

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Jay Jay said:
No.

Why?

Integrity.

JJ
Whatever dude...

Cheating on gfs... hell yeh!

Cheating on wife... NO WAY!

Don't get married if you plan to play away. But while you are just bf/gf... nail as many b*tches as you can and get it out of your system.. literally! :woo:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I wouldn't. Why would I cheat on a woman that I felt was worth dating? Also, why would I bother dating someone I would want to cheat on?
 

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If the girl and I agreed to be exclusive, no. A man has integrity, like stated before.

If I don't think I could be exclusive, I wouldn't date the girl.
 

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When I commit to something I do everything that I can to make sure I honor my part of the commitment.

That, or I just refuse to commit.
 

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Shows how much integrity you have.


So I take it, the only reason you are with your GF is because you're afraid to cheat on her.

This tells you alot about your character dude. I'm looking at you OP.
 

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Cheating is for boys...high school s.hit. If you wanna sleep around, don't get in a bf/gf relationship.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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insidious

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Well I've re-written some of the rules in my life.

Right now...no GF, so maybe the point is moot for me now, at this point in my life.

However if I make the leap to actually considering a woman my GF and we have the explicit understanding we are in exclusive relationship, then hell no, I wouldn't. I take my promises seriously. I can only control my own actions, my own world. If she chooses to be with another guy (s), then I'm at fault for picking a woman of bad character. I don't have the cynical belief that all women are of bad character either.
 

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Only fvck other babes behind your girlfreinds back if you allow her to fvck other dudes. :yes:
 

Bonhomme

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That would depend upon the sort of relationship we have. If she was faithful, and our relationship was understood to be exclusive, no.
 

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A lot of girls are worth dating.

That said, I'd have to really like the girl to not cheat. If she's just...there, I'm a prick, but I'd have to say I'd go for it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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mr_elor said:
It's impossible to say that under no circumstances would a person ever cheat...
Why is that? Is it impossible for people to stand by their convictions? Are you saying that man is weak in nature an is completely driven by reaction and have no means of control over themselves? Are you saying that you have no control over things like taking a life (even your own)? How about having a alternative sexual experience? Are you saying that you have no control over yourself and could have a homosexual experience tomorrow because you have no control of yourself what so ever?
 

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The_Reaper said:
Say you're out of town, or away in some other state, whatever, and it's offered on a plate. Some girl will suck you off or you could go back to her place to have sex and never see her again afterwards. Would you do it? Would you fight the temptation - or is your relationship so strong there would there be no temptation at all (liar)...

If so, how would you feel about it - guilt, remorse, indifference?

I'm wondering also if you will post honest replies...
Honestly, if I had a girlfriend, and another woman offered sex because I'm "that hot" I doubt I would take her up on it. I'd be feeling pretty hot though.

I've been faithful with what little relationship I once had. So I could look myself in the mirror, for one. For two, it's just the right thing to do. If I want to be seen as a man of integrity (and I am one), then I've got to live that in my life.
 

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Cheating is like stealing from a close/good friend....Imagine you let one of your close buddies you've known for years hang out at your place, you leave the room for a second to do something and while your gone your buddy steals money/sentimental object/valuable object from you.

When you get back you don't notice anything wrong until later on down the line when you realize something close to you was taken away, with your back turned..

later you go over to your buddies house, and find the object that was lost sitting in their possession...

Think of the HURT, SHOCK, ANGER, CONFUSION, DIS-BELIEF, BETRAYAL OF TRUST, LACK OF RESPECT you will feel, from the one person who you thought you could count on.

there may be no chance of getting caught but then you would really have to look in the mirror and wonder what kind of a man you are to stoop so low..

Keep yourself to the highest of standards
 

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cheating's for people with low self esteem
 

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Make it known if the relationship is exclusive or not first...If it is, no. If it isn't, go crazy.

That being said, if it was one of 'those' moments then yeah. But I'd dump my gf the next day.

I wouldn't feel bad, I just know it's wrong to cheat. If you make it known that you're not exclusive however, then it isn't cheating or wrong.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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