"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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For the LAST time. Your looks WON'T matter!

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For the LAST time. Your looks WON'T matter!





It doesn't matter if you are good looking, average looking, ugly looking, have game etc...







If you continuously sit around here breaking the fart cherry on your new computer chair and don't go out and meet people.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Naughty Ninja said:
For the LAST time. Your looks WON'T matter!





It doesn't matter if you are good looking, average looking, ugly looking, have game etc...







If you continuously sit around here breaking the fart cherry on your new computer chair and don't go out and meet people.
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Damn Right...
You made me kinda laugh.
 
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To clarify.

I do think that looks matter a great deal (face, body, clothes, style, handsomeness - the way you wear your clothes. Because the same clothes could have a different effect if wore by different people- ...)

BUT self-confidence, magnetism, charisma, sexualness and brains matter even more.

I said "damn right" to the 'joke' (the punch-line) made by the OP.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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looks do matter, I have lived both ways, a fat slob to a guy girls think is hot and give bedroom eyes everywhere I go, you can improve yourself no matter what, anything less is excuses
 
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Looks matter!!

And I am one good lucking guy...I have been a PUA for the past couple of years. And tell you what, the first of the very few things that girl tells me is that I am quite cute.

Sometimes, I wonder whether it is my GAME or my LOOKS that's getting results from women. Yet I am highly skilled at this point, and I know how to transition from attraction to rapport to sex.

Still, I feel that looks play a HUGE role in my game.

In short, my long experience (which you can really count on) say looks (especially grooming) matter.
 
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Looks matter!!

And I am one good lucking guy...I have been a PUA for the past couple of years. And tell you what, the first of the very few things that girl tells me is that I am quite cute.

Sometimes, I wonder whether it is my GAME or my LOOKS that's getting results from women. Yet I am highly skilled at this point, and I know how to transition from attraction to rapport to sex.

Still, I feel that looks play a HUGE role in my game.

In short, my long experience (which you can really count on) say looks (especially grooming) matter.
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I think the main problem is a lot of guys don't want to put the effort in to look good. And I'm not talking just the gym. there's getting good clothing, getting a good haircut, making your skin feel nice (moisturize people, sounds gay but trust me, you will look and smell better), keeping your facial hair in check, etc.

Also, isn't trying to look good part of being a Don Juan. From my understand, a Don Juan isn't just focused on girls, he is focused on improving his life in general and that means your physical appearance as well.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think the main problem is a lot of guys don't want to put the effort in to look good. And I'm not talking just the gym. there's getting good clothing, getting a good haircut, making your skin feel nice (moisturize people, sounds gay but trust me, you will look and smell better), keeping your facial hair in check, etc.

Also, isn't trying to look good part of being a Don Juan. From my understand, a Don Juan isn't just focused on girls, he is focused on improving his life in general and that means your physical appearance as well.
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Tell you what, they say the proverbial Don Juan (someone called Guisippe Giovanni or something like that) was really ugly...He was balding, short and fat! But Casanova...dressed pretty well. He was Italian btw.
 
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The first thing a woman notices is how you look. There is no denying that. Women are also more shallow then men when it comes to looks.

A man's personality can either increase or decrease his attractiveness to a woman.

Men who look good are basically pre-approved and don't have to work as hard as men who don't look that good.
 
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Maxtro said:
The first thing a woman notices is how you look. There is no denying that. Women are also more shallow then men when it comes to looks.

A man's personality can either increase or decrease his attractiveness to a woman.

Men who look good are basically pre-approved and don't have to work as hard as men who don't look that good.
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This is spot on. Yeah, having a good personality and strong social skills are a bonus, but, initially, you MUST meet or exceed her minimum looks requirements. If you don't, she will blow you out very quickly and you won't have a chance to demonstrate your personality or run some creepy PUA routines. If she isn't attracted to you looks, the most you can hope for is to DELAY the inevitable rejection by entertaining her.

This is the reason for the whole "dancing monkey" thing. You approach a girl that is not attracted to you, but she sticks around because you are entertaining her. Once your entertainment ends, she will take off.

I've experienced both sides of that. I approached a group of girls and had them laughing uncontrollably, like ready to pee their pants. They LOVED the entertainment, but walked away seconds after the conversation died down. They weren't attracted to my looks, and no amount of humor/personality could change that.

On the other hand, when I've approached women that WERE attracted to me, I've had conversations that were dry and boring as f*ck. Despite my personality or "game" not being "on," I've pulled one night stands with those girls. They were already attracted. They didn't care what I said or how interesting or boring I was. (As a side note, if she is attracted to you, she will find the most boring sh*t you say entertaining anyway.) It was just a formality to them i.e. a way to waste a half hour before we could leave together.

Anyway, getting back to the OP's point, yes he is still correct. No matter what your looks, you still need to get out there to try. I don't mean try to game someone who isn't into your looks. It's to try to find and properly game a girl that is into you.
 
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Who doesn't enjoy a feel-good thread? Next up: education doesn't matter when you apply for a job. No matter how educated the other applicants are. All you need is self-confidence. Surely the guys with the education won't have that, so you're ahead.
 
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